Black Relationships : Married Men

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  1. Tee

    Tee Member MEMBER

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    What makes a married man risk everything they have for a couple nights of passion? Some of these men have so much to lose like their home, family, businesses, etc.....Some also have the nice, respectable wives that actually honor their marriage vows, so why would a married man take the chance at getting caught with a woman that he knows is only a booty call? I ask this because I went to take my son to the barbershop and the owner, which is married, tried to talk to me. I know this guy very well and I know his wife and family. I didn't take the conversation where he wanted to, so he said I'll just find someone else. I asked him what makes you stray or want to cheat? He tells me that, he didn't use to cheat, but he lost interest, and needs something new to keep him happy;but home is home and he is always going back to his wife. I just shook my head, because men like him make me think twice about being serious in relationships.
     
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    smh...

    I've seen this happen myself and it makes me angry and sad. Angry because if you're in a marriage, you're in an institution that God created for man and woman. God gave man a mate before he gave us the church. Marriage is suppose to be a bond. You're suppose to be there for better or worse but some people could care less on how God intended marriage to be. I try to figure out what's wrong with people and why the lack of respect for their families, their wife/husband and again God. The thing I see is the world has become comfortable with sin. We accept so many things in our society that just wasn't meant to be. The mentality that "everybody's doing it" so they do it too not even caring that God is seeing all of this and it has to sadden Him to see the beings he created in the shape that we are in today. People just need to know that marriage shouldn't be taken lightly. If you don't plan to be faithful do even make the mistake of getting married at all. Spare your family the hurt and pain and just stay single.
     
  3. jamesfrmphilly

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    men are built to desire sexual variety.
    God built men.

    perhaps you ladies should get to know the nature of a man.
     
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    Communication is a very important aspect of a marriage or any relationship for that mattter. If one of the persons involved is unhappy for any reason he/she should address that with his/her partner. When you dont communicate is creates a tear in the relationship were one of the parties is not getting satisfied by the other and the unsatisfied partner seeks to find fullfillment elsewere.

    A wife/husband is suppose to complete you. They are also suppose to bring out the best in you not the worst. God should be the head of any relationship if you wish for it to be successful.
     
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    actually, you should be complete by your self.
     
  6. Tee

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    Well then, explain "the nature" of a man. I was disturbed by this guy. I've been in situations before where I have been cheated on and it really hurt me. So when I get in situations now, where the guy has a gf or a wife, I try to put myself in their shoes. Basically thinking about how they would act and feel when they found out, and it is not a good feeling.
     
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    most, not all, men are built to desire sexual variety.
    if you are a grown woman you should have come to terms with this by now.
    why be all surprised if some one hits on you?
    it's a part of life.
     
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    It's not being all "suprised", just annoyed by the fact this is a married man!
     
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    where have you been?
    married men get more stuff than single men.

    why can't you just shake it off and move on?
     
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    I'm so happy to know that God built men...
    make me happier...
    who build women, james?

    ps...and remember this before you answer james...I'm the Goddess...of the Gods.
     
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