Black People : Marriage Rates Declining For Blacks, Less Educated: Study

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  1. Black-king

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    But they arent getting married these days. So is it really brain washing?
     
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    Of course it is, this has been a part of process. From the studies of how Black women are the least attractive women and less desired to Black families can't get along enough to be married. By putting that out in the media it will continue to enforce the ill conceived notion that a Black man or woman needs to go out of his race to find a mate.
     
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    The decline of marriage has been going on in the black community for decades. It has little to do with "them". The popularization of oow births has nothing to do with them. That is purely our problem
     
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    If by decades you mean since the civil right movement and the integration of Black folks with white people. Before that the Black family was doing good. I agree with you that is our problem to solve but we have to stay away from white ideologies and go back to following the Laws of God.
     
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    Yes, it started after the socalled successes of the movement. The 80s is when the decline started. It's worse than that. We still go to church. We just forgot where we came from. That is a cardinal sin in the black community. There is a reason songs went from 'My Girl' to 'Back That Thang Up'
     
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    Indeed, that sums everything up, Black folks today really forget where they came from.
     
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    So blk folks and less "educated" folks aren't getting married b/c they don't have money or resources...I understand.
     
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    I don't necessarily think that the decline of successful black marriages have anything to do with lack of success or education. Generations of black men and women without fulleducations have had marriages that have lasted beyond 50 years. And I seriously doubt that it is an issue of having forgotten where we came from or whether or not we attend church.

    I believe that what the problem is, is that we do not understand what a marriage really means and entails. Nor do we really take the time as black couples to seriously discuss or consider how we will deal with life situations together. As far as the spiritual aspect, we have not decided to agree concerning what we believe our individual marriages should be.

    Marriage is really a long list of life-agreements. Amos 3:3 bluntly asks "Can two walk together unles they agree?" The answer is "no." If you look at all the failed black marriages out there, the root issue is that they never agreed on the issues that tore them apart.

    Let's take money to start with. Do we really take the time to agree how money should be handled together in the marriage? Are we in agreement about the role money will play in our marriages? Do we even take the time to search out, together, what the bible really says about how to handle money besides tithing and offering? If we do, why are there so many money fights in black marriages?

    What about children? That's already a sore subject in the black community. But do we take time to agree on having children? How many? How we should raise them? what spiritual belief system will our family be built on?

    What about sexual agreements? Faith agreements? Agreements about dealing with outside family members? Conflict resolution agreements?

    Forget the article's view of education being needed in the marriage. The only education you need is about the level of agreements your marriage has, what those agreements are, and how those agreements will be lived out. If we cannot agree on how to love one another and how to live with one another, our marriages, collectively, will keep declining.
     
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    marriage is down across the board in america,all people.
     
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