Black Relationships : Man/woman, cues of attraction

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  1. cocobutterskyn

    cocobutterskyn Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    What are some of the cues that a man/woman give off
    to inform a person they are approachable without a verbal exchange?




    I'd appreciate any dialogue.

    Thanks
    Coco
     
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    I usually don't beat around the bush and come right out with it...

    i'm a bit on the assertive side but i figure if u don't go for it u won't know..

    i can deal with someone not being interested but not knowing bothers me...

    the last guy i thought was cute i just said i think ur kinda cute..... what's ur story....

    he thought i was cute too and oh lucky me i get 30 emails a day equip with scriptures and often have to remind him that my lack of religion is not negotiable.... lol

    but i think u should just go for it.... with confidence.....
     
  3. cocobutterskyn

    cocobutterskyn Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Hello Miss Lady...

    I do appreciate you taking time to take in my thoughts and express your own.

    I am an open and friendly person once I’m comfortable. It is that area before then that may be giving my friend that impression.
    If there is a such thing as semi-introvert/extrovert I believe I would fall under that umbrella. A time or two I've wished I was more
    assertive in said situation. I guess that's why I love to write, because I can journey into whatever personality I want.

    Btw... I have read a couple of your short stories and poems. You are a talented writer. I plan to respond to them in the next day or so,
    as well as read more of you art.


    Thanks for your comment


    Coco
     
  4. Clyde C Coger Jr

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    cocobutterskyn,

    My Friend, that is certainly a beautiful name, cocobutterskyn! It has all the right principles about it.

    It sounds to me as though the relationship is possible, at least to you. Which means there are signs that alert you to the possibiity of a relationship beginning. Where I have misunderstood, please correct me, before I go any farther.

    Also, critical to a decent dialogue would be knowing why, whoever the person is that suggesed you not open yourself up, would tell you such a thing. Disclosure of the person isn't necessary; however, the basis upon the suggestion was made needs to be shared in this discussion, between us.

     
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    1. Did these people give examples of how you arent open?

    2. When I see something I like, I walk up and try to start a convo













     
  6. cocobutterskyn

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    Miss Lady, Kemetstry & Clyde...

    I greatly appreciate the time you kindly took to respond,
    however after viewing your responses I realized the question
    was not articulated in the manner in which I intended.
    With that being said, I apology and would like to rephrase
    my question as it should have been and request more of
    your time to respond again.


    The question is posted above in the original post.

    Thanks in advance,
    Coco:)
     
  7. Clyde C Coger Jr

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    cocobutterskyn,

    The correction is duly noted, cocobuttershyn! My in part answer would be a Go-Between.

     
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    from a man's perspective...receiving cues from a woman

    everything starts with eye contact. if after catching her contact, a woman holds eye contact with you...followed by a smile. it invites a salutation--hello...my name is baller...and i was noticing you from across the way. i hope you don't mind this intrusion, but......

    at that time, if you misread her intentions, she will let you know with her next words. if she's interested, her words are positive. if she's not interested, her words are negative...or, they're positive, but she's trying to find an exit route...i.e. she's not interested.

    most men usually wait for women to give them the signal...to approach them or not. however, this is not a rule. it is okay for a man to approach without receiving an "i'm available," "I'm interested," kinda signal. however, he has to be prepared for her rudeness, if she decides to go that route in dismissing him...if she's not interested.

    SO, BUTTA...

    if you're available, and interested, be prepared to give those signals--hold that eye contact, give that smile, let him know that he can approach you...even if you have to approach him. ALL MEN ARE APPROACHABLE...EVEN IF THEY'RE NOT AVAILABLE. IT'S FLATTERING. and most will let you know that they're unavailable in a nice way.

    if you're not interested, don't hold that eye contact...look the other way. move off in another direction...even frown. THAT WAY, YOU'RE GUARANTEED NOT TO BE DISTURBED.

    i hope this helps.
     
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    baller,

    The closer! Discussion is over, there is nothing else to say, coco!

     
  10. cocobutterskyn

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    Well Clyde, that sounds like about a mouth full of right.
    However, there is one more thing to be said. Your comment,
    mainly the term "The closer" gave me a good laugh.
    And with laughter being good for the soul, it felt good.

    Thanks
    Coco
     
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