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NNQueen

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Kemestry, feel free to post your studies that you claim support your belief that only two parents can "raise a child right." But in the meantime, please understand that if this can be statistically supported, it's my opinion that the data is flawed and biased because there is enough real proof to the contrary that single parents are and can be just as effective at parenting as couples and this flies in the face of your argument. As of now, it takes a sperm and an egg to make a baby but not necessarily both genders to raise it and healthily so. Not ALL single parents are the low-lifes of the earth as you tend to paint them to be, just like all two-parent households aren't healthy nor do they always provide the best environment for their children. Wouldn't you agree that it's up to the character make-up of the individuals involved that determines outcomes?

Back to the topic at hand...male opinions on dating single mothers. I'm not male but I would like to comment. This is like anything in life....some men don't have a problem with dating single mothers and some do. In actuality, it's really as simple as that and that's okay. There is no blanket statement that defines or can describe a woman who is single and a parent, other than she is a woman and has a child. Can this really be an issue of morality according to someone's religious beliefs? It's should be up to the woman to demonstrate who she is as an individual, in my opinion. Some women are phenomenal and will excel at whatever they do. Some women struggle and it will impact her family as well.

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jamesfrmphilly said:
beyond that, why doesn't he have two people raising his child?
how can you tell others what to do if you can't do it yourself?
how can the pot call the kettle black?
You know he's going to ignore these questions.;)
 

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NNQueen said:
Kemestry, feel free to post your studies that you claim support your belief that only two parents can "raise a child right." But in the meantime, please understand that if this can be statistically supported, it's my opinion that the data is flawed and biased because there is enough real proof to the contrary that single parents are and can be just as effective at parenting as couples and this flies in the face of your argument. As of now, it takes a sperm and an egg to make a baby but not necessarily both genders to raise it and healthily so. Not ALL single parents are the low-lifes of the earth as you tend to paint them to be, just like all two-parent households aren't healthy nor do they always provide the best environment for their children. Wouldn't you agree that it's up to the character make-up of the individuals involved that determines outcomes?

Back to the topic at hand...male opinions on dating single mothers. I'm not male but I would like to comment. This is like anything in life....some men don't have a problem with dating single mothers and some do. In actuality, it's really as simple as that and that's okay. There is no blanket statement that defines or can describe a woman who is single and a parent, other than she is a woman and has a child. Can this really be an issue of morality according to someone's religious beliefs? It's should be up to the woman to demonstrate who she is as an individual, in my opinion. Some women are phenomenal and will excel at whatever they do. Some women struggle and it will impact her family as well.

Queenie :spinstar:

That will be a separate thread. It has nothing to do with this topic
 

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NNQ, if you check the data (national crime statistics, Uniform Crime Report, teen pregnancy statistics from any state, CDC reports, etc.) you would find that there are two common variables across the board with these populations: predominately they 1) come from single parent households, and 2) they have no solid faith-based affiliation (for those incarcerated, prior to their incarceration. Once in, it is not unusual for many of them to “find religion.”)
 

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Eks said:
NNQ, if you check the data (national crime statistics, Uniform Crime Report, teen pregnancy statistics from any state, CDC reports, etc.) you would find that there are two common variables across the board with these populations: predominately they 1) come from single parent households, and 2) they have no solid faith-based affiliation (for those incarcerated, prior to their incarceration. Once in, it is not unusual for many of them to “find religion.”)
if you check the data on those who are running the country into war and bankrupting the national treasure you will find they come from two parent households and have strong religious backgrounds.........
 

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Eks said:
NNQ, if you check the data (national crime statistics, Uniform Crime Report, teen pregnancy statistics from any state, CDC reports, etc.) you would find that there are two common variables across the board with these populations: predominately they 1) come from single parent households, and 2) they have no solid faith-based affiliation (for those incarcerated, prior to their incarceration. Once in, it is not unusual for many of them to “find religion.”)

I believe 95% of all prison inmates come from oow situations. Though the teen pregnancy rate went down geometrically in our community recently. The word HAS gotten out on that end
 

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Keep looking PJ, you’d also find that those who are temporarily running our country into the ground have those seemingly allusive caveats such as college degrees, careers, and stable & supportive immediate “village” circles. Keep looking, those who are trashing the country are not of solid religious/faith convictions. They simply play to the emotive heartstrings of the uninformed – I’m sorry to say – Christian community. True Christians do not support the concept of “pre-emptive violence.”
 

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Eks said:
Keep looking PJ, you’d also find that those who are temporarily running our country into the ground have those seemingly allusive caveats such as college degrees, careers, and stable & supportive immediate “village” circles. Keep looking, those who are trashing the country are not of solid religious/faith convictions. They simply play to the emotive heartstrings of the uninformed – I’m sorry to say – Christian community. True Christians do not support the concept of “pre-emptive violence.”
The fact remains though, that Christianity is usually the driving mandate in the acts and frames of mind for these people.

America is one of the youngest nations in the history of the world, and for it's youth, it has more violence attached to its name.

All the more, this is supposed to be a nation founded upon "Christian principles".

PEACE
 

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Eks said:
Keep looking PJ, you’d also find that those who are temporarily running our country into the ground have those seemingly allusive caveats such as college degrees, careers, and stable & supportive immediate “village” circles. Keep looking, those who are trashing the country are not of solid religious/faith convictions. They simply play to the emotive heartstrings of the uninformed – I’m sorry to say – Christian community. True Christians do not support the concept of “pre-emptive violence.”
then there have been very few "true Christians" in the history of the world..........
 

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PJ, and when you put those “few true” Christians in a room with the “few true” men, “few true” women, “few true” partners, “few true” et. al., in the end, you say that to say what?
 

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