Black Relationships : males opinions on dating single mothers

[LovelyGoldenOne]

I am about to give birth to a little girl in about 5 days or less and I was sitting down thinking the other day...What if me and my boyfriend don't work out? We have a great relationship right now, one of the best I've ever had and he is a good man that I thank God everyday for. But I have learned from past relationships that sometimes life doesn't turn out like you want it to. So I was wondering if we didn't work out and I found myself ready to date again, how men would react to me having a child. I am 21 years old, a college senior and on my way to a good career to provide comfortably for me and my daughter, I consider myself attractive and intelligent and I don't see myself as the typical "baby momma". I like the whole dating scene when I am ready to explore.

basically I want guys opinions, would you date or consider dating a woman with one child? Or even a woman with more than one child? (I plan for this little girl to be my first and last!)

let me know what you think!

 

[jamesfrmphilly]

not a problem......but why are you thinking like this right now?

 

[LovelyGoldenOne]

my good girl friend and i were having a discussion the other day about this topic and i was just curious...thats all

 

[jamesfrmphilly]

i never had a problem wit it (unless the kid wanna stay up and watch)

 

[ShemsiEnTehuti]

I am about to give birth to a little girl in about 5 days or less and I was sitting down thinking the other day...What if me and my boyfriend don't work out? We have a great relationship right now, one of the best I've ever had and he is a good man that I thank God everyday for. But I have learned from past relationships that sometimes life doesn't turn out like you want it to. So I was wondering if we didn't work out and I found myself ready to date again, how men would react to me having a child. I am 21 years old, a college senior and on my way to a good career to provide comfortably for me and my daughter, I consider myself attractive and intelligent and I don't see myself as the typical "baby momma". I like the whole dating scene when I am ready to explore.

basically I want guys opinions, would you date or consider dating a woman with one child? Or even a woman with more than one child? (I plan for this little girl to be my first and last!)

let me know what you think!

To be honest, I think of myself as someone with a lot to offer a woman and future children. I don't want it to be wasted on a woman who has "baby daddy drama". I have witnessed often times when a "good man" comes into a woman's life with a child (or children), then baby-daddy comes into the picture acting all crazy talking about, "I don't want him around my baby" screaming outside at 1am.

Then there is just the idea of raising another man's child. I'm sorry, but the woman would have to be very special, or doing something very right, for me to do that.