The three words we hear most when we, black (non-white) males and females, are in the process of breaking up are "I didn't know". And the reason we didn't know is because we didn't ask enough questions before we made it to the bedroom. Sex, for many of us, results in us compromising our principles. Although many of us will not admit it, we act it out. I didn't know that would make you mad. I didn't know every year you take $5,000.00 out of the account and go to Vegas with your girlfriends. I didn't know you want me to do that with you. I didn't know you'd be hanging out all hours of the night with your boys. Folowing that logic, before we make it to the bedroom to engage in sexual intercourse, we should ask and answer all of the questions that are important for us to know and important for the other person to know. This, of course, is gonna slow everything down and for some of us will be extremely difficult to put that desire or attraction on hold until the questions get answered. I've had females who want to keep me up all night to answer all of my questions just so that we could "get busy" as soon as possible. Incidentally, there should be no time limit imposed on how long it takes for a male and female to get these questions asked and answered, or which questions should be asked, or how many questions should be asked. That is left up to the two people asking and answering the questions. Myself and other non-white males and non-white females constructed a list of over 500 questions that other non-white males and females can pick and choose to ask and answer when in discussions with each other that are designed to aid us in finding out the information that is pertinent to us as individuals before partaking in sexual intercourse with each other. Please use this list at your discretion. I only ask that if you have a question that is not on the list please add your question ot the list. The list of questions and the discussion surrounding building the list can be found on the Counter-Racism Work/Study Project under the Sex under White Supremacy (Racism) forum. The name of the thread is; Questions A VOR Asks A VOR Before Sexual Intercourse These questions are aimed at keeping non-white males and females in good partnering relationships by preventing surprises that routinely end good constructive partnerships between black males and black females. The focus is on the process for getting us together and keeping us together in good constructive partnerships. Most of the questions are listed below. The process should be that if the male and female are looking to have sexual intercourse they should be looking to be in a long term partnering relationship...an idea that doesn't appear to matter to a lotta people these days. To add questions please go to the Questions A VOR Asks A VOR Before Sexual Intercourse thread and add the questions you have either asked someone else, some else has asked you, or questions you think should be asked by black males and black females to eahc other before they engage in sexual intercourse. The idea is not to ask all of the questions. Just ask the ones you think are necesary before you engage in sexual intercourse. Here we go... (1) What is your name? (2) Are you married? (3) Do you have any children? (4) How many children do you have? (5) What are the names of your children? (6) Do you have a job? (7) How much money do you make? (8) Do you have an automobile? (9) Have you ever had any diseases? (10) Do you now or have you ever had sexual intercourse with a white person? (11) If you have had sexual intercourse with a white person, when did it happen? (12) If you have had sexual intercourse with a white person, where did it happen? (13) If you have had sexual intercourse with a white person, how many times did it happen? (14) If you have had sexual intercourse with a white person, what was the person(s) names? (15) Do you have a phone number? (16) Do you still live with your parents? (17) Do you now or have you ever engaged in "anti-sexual" activities? Meaning males with males or females with females. (18) If you have engaged in "anti-sexual" activities, how many times? (19) If you have had sexual intercourse with a white person, what specific sex actions were performed? (20) If you have had sexual intercourse with a white person, how many times were those specific sex actions were performed? (21) If you have engaged in "anti-sexual" activities, when did it happen? (22) If you have engaged in "anti-sexual" activities, where did it happen? (23) If you have engaged in "anti-sexual" activities, what was the person(s) names? (24) If you have engaged in "anti-sexual" activities, what specific "anti-sex" actions were performed? (25) If you have engaged in "anti-sexual" activities, how many times were those specific "anti-sex" actions were performed? (26) Do you now or have you ever engaged in "anti-sexual" activities with an animal? (27) Do you now or have you ever watched other people engaging in sexual and/or "anti-sexual" activities? (28) If you do watch other people engaging in sexual and/or "anti-sexual" activities, are any of those people ever children? (29) Do you now or have you ever used any item during sexual activities and/or "anti-sexual" activities that are not currently attached to your body? (30) Are you parents living? (31) How many siblings do you have? (32) What is your favorite color? (33) Why is that color your favorite color? (34) Do you exercise? (35) Do you like sexual intercourse more than twice a week? (36) How many times a week do you like sexual intercourse if more than twice a week? (37) What exercises do you like to do and why? (38) If you have siblings, are you the youngest? Oldest? Middle? Where do you fit in? (39) Do you invest in stocks, mutual funds, or bonds? (40) What schools did you attend? (41) Were you part of any "organizations" while in school? (42) What is the name of your religion? (43) What does you religion require you to do in all areas of people activity? (44) What does your religion require you to do in your interaction with me, on a day-to-day level? (45) Do you now or have you ever killed anyone? (46) Is anyone looking for you? (47) Have you ever been to jail? (48) If you have been to jail, what were you charged with? (49) If you have been to jail, how long did you remain in jail? (50) Do you smoke? (51) Do you drink alcoholic beverages? (52) Do you eat or like meat? (53) For males asking females: Have you ever beat or abused a male? (54) For females asking males: Have you ever beat or abused a female? (55) Have you ever been a victim of or perpetrator of incest? (56) Do you know how to cook,clean and sew? (57) Do you wash between your toes when you bathe or shower? (58) Male asking female: When you have a bowel movement, do you wipe from frint to back or back to front? (59) Do you take a bath or shower every day? (60) How often do you brush your teeth? (61) Do you use Listerine or some other mouthwash after every brushing of your teeth? (62) How often do you clean your ears? (63) When you clean your ears, do you use a Q-Tip and alcohol> (64) How often do you wash your hair? (If the person has hair) (65) Do you snore? (66) Do you use deodorant everyday? (67) How often do you clip your nose hair? (68) Are you on time? (punctual) (69) When was the last time you had a physical? (70) Male asking Female: When was the last time you saw a gynecologist and what was the result of the visit? (71) Do you have AIDS or HIV? (72) Do you have Syphilis? (73) Have you ever been diagnosed with any form of mental illness? (74) Are you now or have you ever been a woman/man? (question posed to the apparent opposite sex) (75) What is the worst thing someone could call you? (76) If someone called you the worst name you could think of, what wuold you do? (77) Are you now or have you ever been an agent for any organizations, i.e. CIA, FBI, Mossad, etc... (78) What is the freakiest thing you've ever done sexually? (79) What is the freakiest thing you'd like to do sexually? (80) Would you want ME to participate in this most freaky activity with you? (81) How often is it necessary for you to engage in sexual intercourse? (82) How often would you want me to engage you in sexual lintercourse? (83) Are you now, or have you ever had sexual intercourse with more than one person? (84) If so, why did you do it, if not why not? (85) What is your greatest weakness? (86) What is your greatest strength? (87) What do you perceive in you sexual partner as desirable? (88) Do you see me as desirable as a sexual partner? (89) What is your intention is engaging me in sexual intercourse? (90) Do you like horror movies? (91) Do you like action movies? (92) Do you watch soap operas? (93) Do you wear hair in your head that does not grow out of your scalp? (94) Do you wear fake fingernails and/or toenails? (95) What foods don't you like? (96) Do you smoke marijuana? (97) Do you take drugs of any kind if so which ones? (98) Do you take vitamins? (99) Do you perform oral sex? (100) When was the last time you performed oral sex? (101) Who did you perform oral sex on? Under what conditions? (102) Do you believe in the existence of Racism/White Supremacy? If so, why and if not, why not? (103) Do you think that you should work to eliminate Racism/White Supremacy? If so, what are some things that you could say or do to eliminate Racism/White Supremacy. If not, why don't you think you shouldn't help to eliminate Racism/White Supremacy. (104) How many people have you engaged in sexual intercourse with? (105) How many times have you engaged in sexual intercourse? (106) What kind of music do you usually listen to? (107) How much time do you spend listening to recorded music per week? (108) How loud do you listen to music? (109) What is your credit rating? (110) Do you or any of your close relatives who engage in activities which put you or them at increased risk of greater confinemment? (111) Do you have any fetish(s) to frequently engage in sex with items that are not part of the a person's body? If so, please describe the activity. (112) Do you have any fetish(s) do frequently engage in exclusive sex with one part of a person's body? If so, please describe that activity. (113) How often do you thoroughly clean your bathroom? (114) What are you willing to die for? (115) What are the three books you've read that have most influenced your behavior? (116) Do you do things for no reason? (117) What are you doing to improve yourself spiritually? (118) What are you doing to improve yourself financially? (119) What are you doing to improve yourself physically? (120) What type of automobile do you drive? (121) Do you always do what you say? (122) When were you born? (123) Do you go to nightclubs? (124) How often do you go to nightclubs? (125) Do you like to go camping? (126) Do you like to go bowling? (127) Do you skate? (roller-skate) (128) Do you use coupons when you shop for groceries? (129) Do you buy “name-brand” items when you shop for groceries or do you price-competitively shop? (130) Do you try to reveal truth at all times? (131) Do you try things to see what you can get away with when learning someone else’s personality? (132) Do you pay your bills on the due date, a few days before the due date, or when you get the bill in the mail? (133) How often do you buy clothes? (134) Do you play any sports? (135) Do you have any physical defects? (136) Do you masturbate? (137) Are you ever depressed? (138) Do you see yourself as a “moody” person? (139) Do you date other men when you are in a “relationship” with a man? (140) Do you kiss, hug, have sexual intercourse with, go to lunch with, talk on the phone with, and/or see on a regular basis, other males when you are in a “relationship” with a male? (replace "male" with "female" if female is asking question) (141) If you do kiss, hug, have sexual intercourse with, go to lunch with, talk on the phone with, and/or see on a regular basis, other males when you are in a “relationship” with a male, how does that help your “relationship” with the male you are in a “relationship” with? (replace "male" with "female" if female is asking question) (142) Do you have “male friends”? (replace "male" with "female" if female is asking question) (143) What do you and your “male friends” say to each other? (replace "male" with "female" if female is asking question) (144) What do you and your “male friends” do to or with each other? (replace "male" with "female" if female is asking question) (145) What one person in your life influenced you most to say an/or do constructive things? (146) Do you have a menstrual cycle? (147) Are you physically capable of producing offspring? (148) Do you mean what you say and say what you mean? (149) Do you want to produce offspring in the future? (150) How much do you weigh? (151) What is your age? (152) How tall are you in feet and inches? (153) What date were you born? (year, month, day, time) (154) Do you pick your nose around other people? (155) Do you tell your “friends” about things that happen between you and your mate? (156) What do you tell your “friends” about things that happen between you and your mate? (157) For what purpose do you tell your “friends” about things that happen between you and your mate? (158) Do you stay out late at night without your mate when you are in a “relationship”? (160) Do you go out at night without your mate when you are in a “relationship”? (161) Where do you go out at night and with who do you go out at night with, without you mate, when you are in a “relationship”? (162) Do you take any “medications”? (163) Do you change the color of your hair from the natural color? Why? (164) Do you live in a house or an apartment? (165) How many credit cards do you have? (166) Are you allergic to anything? If so what? (167) What is your favorite restaurant? (168) How many times a week do you like to eat out? (169) Do you talk about problems in an effort to solve the problem from the cause or do you attempt to treat the effect? (170) Do you celebrate holidays? (171) Do you have a problem with your mate celebrating holidays? (172) Do you like suprises? (173) Do you take any "Drug/s" un-willingly? If so, what type of drug/s do you take? How often do you take your (male/female) drug/s? Why do you take (these/this) drug/s? When did you start taking (these/this) drug/s? Do you like taking (these/this) drug/s (In response to the second question)? (174) Do you now, have you ever, or will you ever breast feed your child in the event you have offspring? (175) Are you jealous? (176) Would you harm yourself or me if this relationship were to end? Why or why not? (177) Name 5-10 very important qualities you look for in a female/male? (178) Why do you consider these qualities important? (179) Why do you want to have sex ? (180) What is your reason for having sex with me? (No flattery or compliments allowed. ) (181) Are you looking for a husband? (182) What does a female who is looking for a husband do that a female that is not looking for a husband do? (183) Where does a female who is looking for a husband go that a female that is not looking for a husband go? (184) What does a female who is looking for a husband say that a female that is not looking for a husband say? (185) Are you looking for a wife? (186) Why are you looking for a wife? (187) Why do you want a wife as a opposed to a girlfriend? (188) Would you help raise and support financially any offspring you have with a female? If not, why not? (189) Would you "legally" "marry" the female you want to be your wife? (190) Describe the relationship you have/had with your mother? (191) Describe the relationship you have/had with your father? (192) Describe the relationship you have/had with your brothers/sisters if you have any? (193) Do you want your wife to work outside the home, inside the home or both? (194) Do you want your offspring to attend school or be educated and trained in the home? (195) Name ten things you would NOT do to me if I became your wife (196) Do you expect a female to act as mother towards you? If so, why? (197) *Is "Sex" nessary nowadays? (198) *Do you have "male/female friends"? How many? (199) *What is Love? How do you apply it in everyday situations? (200) Describe the words "Life", "God", and "Justice". How would you apply them in everyday situations? (201) When was the last time you cried and what brought it on? (202) Have you ever had an abortion? (203) Have you ever supported anyone else, in any shape or form that had an abortion? (204) Do you now, have you ever, or will you ever participate in an orgy? (205) Do you now or will you ever have sexual intercourse and/or sexual play with anyone other than me? (206) Do you say and/or do things with your mate that has non-constructive outcomes to learn things about how they react to certain situations? (207) Have you ever taken picture of a child with no clothes on? What were the circumstances surrounding you taking pictures of a child with no clothes on? (208) Have you ever taken videos of a child with no clothes on? What were the circumstances surrounding you taking videos of a child with no clothes on? (209) Have you ever been photographed with no clothes on? (210) Have you ever been videoed with no clothes on? (211) Have you ever been in a video of a sexual nature? (212) Have you ever been in photographs of a sexual nature? (213) Are you adopted? (214) Did you grow up in foster care? If yes, how did you end up there and talk in depth about the whole experience. (215) Name 3 or 4 things you are insecure about? Give the reasons why you are insecure about those things. (216) Do you own a gun? Do you have a license to own a gun? Why do you own a gun? (217) Would you use your gun on me? Why or why not? (218) How many offspring do you want to have and when? (219) What does your choice of musical sounds cause you to think of most? (220) What is your greatest flaw? (221) What are your 3 best skills? (222) After we have asked each other all these questions and then some, are we going to pursue sexual intercourse right away or are we going to attempt marriage and then have sexual intercourse? (223) What will you do after I have sexual intercourse with you? (224) Do you now or will you ever spank your children? (225) Do you now or will you ever save money for your child's extended education? (226) Do you want children in the future? (227) At what age do you want yOur children (child) to start school? (228) Do you plan on breast feeding yOur children? (229) Are you going to be a "stay-at-home" mother? (230) Will you agree to having yOur child skip grade levels if yOur child is "smarter" than the other children in their class room? (231) Do you have any issues with having either a son or daughter? (232) Do you have a preference of birthing a son or daughter? (233) Do you now or will you ever take any vacations at any time that do not include some or all parts of your immediate "family" (mate, offspring)? (234) Will you work extensively and exhaustively with yOur mate ("husband or "wife") to make sure yOur children understand all of the obstacles against them in their existence in this SYSTEM of injustice? (235) Will you be involved with having "the sex talk" with yOur mate and your children? (236) Will you attend PTA meetings? (237) Will you help yOur children to understand why the SYSTEM of white supremacy (racism) must be replaced with a SYSTEM of justice? (238) Will you help yOur children do their homework and help them to understand why it is important to do their homework? (239) Will you ever have someone else watch yOur children so you can do something that is not needed but wanted? (240) Will you attend "church services" with yOur children? (241) Why do you want to have offspring under the system of White Supremacy/Racism? (242) Are you willing to protect your offspring and your mate? (243) What are you willing to do protect your offspring and mate? (244) Will you help in rearing your offspring or will that be left solely to me? (245) If you have offspring from a previous relationship will you show favoritism towards them or will you show favoritism toward any offspring we may have? (246) Are you a controlling or domineering? (247) How do you handle stress or pressure? (248) Are you "hot tempered"? (249) Do you take responsibility for your health? (251) Are you a workaholic? If so, why? (252) Do you always speak (reveal) the Truth about all things? Why? (253) Will you ever lie to or practice Deceit on (against) me? Why? (254) Will you ever lie about anything? Why? (255) Have you ever lied (in the past)? Why? (256) Will you Always speak (reveal) the Truth (in future)? Why? (257) What do you think about most often? Why? (258) Have you ever fought in a war? (259) How many languages do you speak? What are they? (260) Have you ever taken martial arts? (261) What do you like to do that you do well? (262) What is your ultimate objective? (263) What do you think my ultimate objective should be? (264) In what ways should the accomplishment of your ultimate objective involve me, and in what ways should the accomplishment of my ultimate objective involve you, in which of the following areas of people activity: Economics, Education, Entertainment, Labor, Law, Politics, Religion, Sex, and/or War. (265) Do you leave the dishes in the sink when you go to bed? (266) Do you wash dishes by hand? (267) Have you ever excepted money for sexual favors, and or sexual entertainment? (268) Have you ever excepted gifts for sexual favors, and or sexual entertainment? (269) Have you ever offered money for sexual favors, and or sexual entertainment? (270) Have you ever offered gifts for sexual favors, and or sexual entertainment? (271) If you decide you are ready for sexually activity with me before I am ready for sexual activity with you, how will that effect the relationship? (272) Will you become angry or violent if I choose not to have sex with you? (273) How long are you willing to wait for sexual activity with me? (274) Have you ever been accused of date rape and or forcing yourself on the opposite sex? (275) Have you every proceeded in sexual activity with a woman who said No but was physically submissive?Why? (276) Have you every lied to receive sex? Why? (277) What is your life's purpose? What do you do on a day to day basis to pursue that purpose? (278) Where do you see yourself in the next 5 years? 10 years? 20 years? (279) What did you want to be growing up? Did you achieve that goal? If not why? How has that effected you as an adult? (280) What medications do you take and for what? (281) How does that medication effect you on a day to day basis? (282) How does this medication effect your behavior? (283) Are you legally disabled? If so what specific disability? (284) How does this disability effect you on a day to day basis? (285) How does this disability effect your behavior? (286) What accommodations are required for your specific disability? (287) Will this disability require us to make specific accommodations during sex? (288) Do you currently have any Degeneratory diseases or acute illnesses (289) How does this disease or illness effect your behavior? (290) Will it one day render you disabled? (291) What accommodations have you made for your future care if this should happen? (292) What accommodations will I have to make for this illness if we should be together? (293) What are the chances of this disease being passed on to our offspring , if we should choose to have them? (294) If you have been diagnosed with a mental condition, what was the condition? (295) How long ago were you diagnosed? (296) Do you currently take medication for this condition? (297) Do you regularly see a doctor for this condition? (298) How is this condition treated? (299) How does this condition effect your behavior? (300) What are the chances of that disease being passed on to our offspring , if we should choose to have them? (301) Is the current name you use the name you were given at birth? If not why? Is this now your legal name? Do you go by any other aliases? (302) Are you on parole? (303) Have you ever been convicted of a felony? (304) Have you ever been accused of stalking someone? (305) Are you on speaking terms with ex-partners and/or ex-spouses? (306) Are any of them currently stalking you or insisting on continuing a relationship? (307) Is there anyone who may currently believe that they are in a relationship with you? (308) Are they aware that you are now pursuing a possible relationship with someone else? (309) How many times have you been married? Are you legally divorced from all of you previous spouses? (310) Have you ever been sexually assaulted? (male and female) If so have you received treated for it? (311) How has this assault effected you on a day to day basis? (312) How has this assault effected your behavior? (313) Have you received treated for any kind of sexual disfunction? (314) Have you ever fantasized about someone of the same sex? (315) Have you fantasized about sex with animals? (316) Have you ever had a crush on someone of the same sex? (317) Do you have to fantasize about unusual sexual activity (anti-sex, incest, bestiality, sex with inanimate objects, sex with a child, pain) in order to reach orgasm? Why? When did that behavior start? Have you received treated for that behavior? (318) Have you ever had sex with someone under 15 years younger or older than you? Why? (319) Have you every had sex with someone who was a close relative? (1st or 2nd cousin etc..) (320) Have you ever been accused a statutory rape? If so were you convicted? If so are you now registered with the national sex offenders list? (321) Have you ever been accused of abusing a child? If so were you convicted? Are you now allowed to be around children? (322) Is sex painful for you? Do you enjoy sexual activity? If not why? (323) Do you regularly reach orgasm during sex? (324) Do you require medication in order to achieve an erection? (325) Do you require medication to reach arousal? (male to female) (326) Do you require any kind of artificial lubrication in order to achieve sexual activity? (327) Do you currently use any artifical means (such as a penile implant) to achieve an erection? (328) Have you had any surgical procedures (hysterectomy or removal of cysts) that would effect intercourse or production of offspring? (329) Do you prefer getting tested for HIV and other STDs, and then having a monogamous relationship, or using condoms each time we have sex? (330) Have you ever had a sexual partner who had HIV or another STD? (331) How long has it been since you've been tested for HIV and other STDs? (332) How many sexual partners have you had since then? (333) Have you ever had genital ulcers or warts? (334) Do you have any STD symptoms - ulcers, warts, vaginal or penile discharge? (335) Do you know how to tell if you are infected with an STD? (336) Have you ever had anal sex? If so how often? Did you use a condom? (337) Do you have regular menses? (338) When was your last menstrual cycle? (339) How many urinary tract infections have you had (340) How many pairs of under ware do you have? (for women bra's and under ware) How often do you wash them? (341) How often do you perform a self breast exam? (342) Do you use the same cloth to wash your face as you do to was your genital area? (343) Do you own any pets? What kind? How many? (344) Are they aggressive? (345) How do you discipline them? (346) In what condition are they in? (347) What care do they require and how often? (346) Have you ever been accused of Animal Cruelty? (347) What are your pet peeves? Why? (348) If we should pursue a relationship, will leadership be equally shared among us, or will one partner be designated as the "leader"? (349) If one partner is to be designated leader, which one of us will that be? Who gets to decide? (350) If we should pursue a relationship, will financial responsibility be equally shared among us, or will one partner be solely responsible for providing finances? (351) If one partner will be solely responsible for providing finances, which one of us will that be? Who gets to decide? (352) What are your primary needs from me in this relationship? (353) Are you the type of person who requires allot of people around you at all times, or are you more of a solitary person? (354) If we should share a home will there be frequent visiting of friends and family? (355) Will these visits be of an constructive nature or generally entertainment? (356) Will we frequently visit the homes of friends and family? (357) Will these visits be of an constructive nature or generally entertainment? (358) Are you an active person requiring allot of outdoors activity and entertainment, or are you more of a stay at home type of person? (359) If we should pursue a relationship. how often a week will we participate in "entertaining" activities. (360) How often a week will we participate constructive activities? (362) Do you consider yourself an affectionate person requiring allot of attention and affection, or not very affectionate and requiring very little affection and attention? (363) How much personal attention and affection do you require from me on a day to day basis? (364) Do you have financial standards that I must meet in order to pursue a relationship with you? If so what are they? (365) How often do you self annalize and experiment? (365) What issues are you currently working to improve on in yourself, and for how long? (365) What do you consider to be your greatest accomplishment and why? (366) What critical things have you learned about yourself in the past year? 5 years? 10 years? 367) If I have a child, am I capable of providing for its emotional and financial support, even if my partner is not willing to participate? (368) Am I sure no one is pushing me into having sex? Am I pushing omeone into have sex? (369) Am I having sex willingly or because I feel it is necessary in order to maintain a relationship with my current partner? (370) Am I absolutely sure my partner is not infected with an STD, including AIDS? (371) Am I being absolutely honest with my self and future partner about my motives? (372) Have you ever had any bones broken? (373) Do you have any bones that were broken that never set correctly? (374) Do you like spicy food? (375) What foods don't you eat? (376) Do you have any false teeth? (377) Do you fear being alone? (378) Are you revengeful or spiteful? (379) Do you find it difficult to admit your faults or when you are incorrect? (380) Do you cling to people who are non-constructive? (381) How do you react to sexual rejection, i.e., a female says she doesn't want you for anything? What do you say and do in reaction to that? (382) Are you or have you ever been physically, mentally and emotionally abusive to anyone? (383) Do you find it difficult to express your thoughts and feelings? (384) Are you physically affectionate? (385) Are you sexually aggressive in bed? (386) Are you stingy with money? (387) Are you very critical person, i.e., do you find fault with everything and everybody? (388) Have you ever thought about harming yourself or someone else in anyway? (389) Do you feel or think that you might be going crazy at times? (390) Do you or have you ever spied on anyone? (391) Do you have a temper? How do you handle yourself when angered? (392) Do you now or have you ever felt contempt towards females? (393) Are you possessive or controlling? (394) Are you coercive and manipulative? (395) Do you like or dislike being pursued by a female or being called affectionate names by a female? (396) Have you ever received counseling services from a mental help provider? (397) Have you ever or would you ever "pull a knife or gun" on someone? (398) What would you do if you caught a female you were having sexual intercourse with having sexual intercourse with another male or female? Be very specific. (399) Do you have children who don't live with you and if so why? Do they visit you or do you visit them? How long are your visitations with each other? (400) How would you characterize your relationship with your children?