First let me make this clear: The Afrikan woman is Gods most wonderful and beautiful creation and are the ONLYwoman for me! Now, about this issue here's my take We have to address the issues of LOVE, TRUST and UNDERSTANDING each others positions. Love itself is based on these main 3 things. Without all 3 you have problems. LOVE is something that comes from the deepest depths of your soul and being. It is not earned, but bestowed. It is the most complicated of the three. It is a combination of physical, mental and spiritual components that fit together for some reason and BANG! TRUST is something on the other hand that is almost entirely EARNED. You can trust someone without either liking them realy and surely without LOVING them. It is something that is both in the nature of the person that you grow to trust but also a result of whatever baggage you bring to the table. Some people that have been burned do not and will not TRUST. This is both a defense mechanism and problem. What tends to happen is that we bring B.S. from our last relationship(s) into the current situation. This usually proves TOXIC. UNDERSTANDING is in some ways THE most important thing that you need to have and sustain a relationship. One must be flexible as well as firm. A brother must be the head WITHOUT being a TYRANT or a DICTATOR. A sister must allow her man to be a man and the man within their household/relationship. KNOW WHEN TO SHUT UP! UNDERSTANDING means sometimes doing things that you dont like to do, but your mate does. Discuss major things but dont micro manage. In short the word is COMPROMISE! It does not weaken you or your position. It stregnthens it! I am no expert but in my estimation there are a few simple ways to have a good, lasting relationship, which in turn ensures the survival of our People! Look, it took me some trial and error to arrive at my opinoins that I now have but I think that this topic is VITAL if we are going to prosper and flourish as a NATION!