Black Relationships : Loving Self

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  1. Nisa

    Nisa Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Hello Everyone :wave:
    It's me Nisa..the confused queen.
    I have recently entered the "valley" of you need to love yourself first. Now i know what this means, i know i have to do it. I've gotten comfortable in my own crap, and am scared as h*ll to do it but its necessary.Me and my ego are on battle grounds lol. i just need some pointers on how to begin this process,and how to trust it. Thanks.
     
  2. kente417mojo

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    Nisa, I think the first thing is to realize that you are worth more than you give yourself credit for. We all have been to the point where we don't think much of ourselves. You are a beautiful woman and you deserve to be happy with yourself...then you can allow someone else to benefit from knowing you and loving you. Take time to just relax by yourself. Definately don't rush into anything. Learn to take time and watch movies (alone) and maybe write to express yourself (that's what I do). There will be a time when your driving or walking around, you'll say "I'm ready". That's when you know that you're good with yourself.
     
  3. Nisa

    Nisa Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Thanks Kente. Lord knows im a rusher. *sigh* thank you though. I needed that
     
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    a few things you can do to start learning to love yourself is, 1. (Like Brother kente said,) take time out for yourself. Get some scented candles, some lite music, some scented bath oils to soften your bath water, and your favorite lotion and or perfume.

    2. set your candles up in the bathroom, get your bath started, your lite music playing and just totally relax yourself. Say to yourself that, this is my time for me and I am going to give my mind and body some much needed attention. Don't rush this process! Make sure that you don't have anything else to do that will require you to cut the process short. After the peaceful bath session, get your lotion and perfume out. Make sure you lotion every part of yourself that needs attention. Put on something light and soft to finish up. I repeat, don't rush! Take your time! This is very important!

    3. Do your nails, hair, and whatever else that will make you feel beautiful. Watch a inspiring movie, or a tear jerker. Something that will make you feel compassion and love. Or read a book. Just relax! Don't worry about what anyone else is doing. This is your time and you are your number 1 client.

    4. Try to hold the feelings of peace and serenity for as long as you can. Carry this feeling with you well into the next day. Avoid any drama if possible.

    These steps will set you off on your way, on how to begin loving yourself! Repeat as often as you can.

    Good luck Sister! Much peace and harmony to ya!!!!!
     
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    I agree with all above this what you need to do , you are a worthy Queen
    good luck on this journey within sistah.
     
  6. LibertyLady

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    Yes Purp got it on the right point...


    youre body is youre temple ...

    and if you got the time ...

    just dance .....

    put some james brown...and get on the good foot...


    and good food....

    not good foot but good Food lol







    nisa sister i come back on this question...


    there are also other ways of ..giving love to yourself...

    things that people forget ...




    but i will come back...


    and honey...





    we are all on this path...


    we all forget that ...somthimes loving ourselves..



    but youre on good way....with loving youre self


    cause at least you are honest with yourself....


    youre honest about youre treu emotions
    and the way you are standing in life........
    A lot of fooks ...


    just go with the wind ...
    follow the big crowd the big massa










    Lovelibertylady:heart:
     
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