Black People : Light Skinned vs. Dark Skinned...

Discussion in 'Black People Open Forum' started by Mike Ramey, Sep 29, 2002.

  1. Mike Ramey

    Mike Ramey Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Here's one we don't talk about very much...but I am interested in some comment.

    We Black folk, in the words of Tony Brown a few years back, range from the highest 'yellows' to the darkest black. YET, as time has gone on, we STILL continue--amongst ourselves--to treat ourselves not only 'differently' but 'shamefully' because of OUR skin color.

    Why IS that?

    Any takers, or Incidents to share amongst the wise ones of the Boards? This is one Demon that we are going to have to drive a stake through, IF we are going to learn how to love ourselves.

    Mike Ramey:love:
     
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    redlady Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Mike, I am surprised you brought that issue up. Bringing a topic like this to the forum just encourages brothahs and sistahs to dig up their slave issues. I let that color thing go a LONG time ago. I suggest you do the same.
     
  3. Mike Ramey

    Mike Ramey Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Maybe it will; Maybe it won't....

    Redlady...it's not about slavery, and--based on some of the OTHER great topics I've noted on some of the other sections of the Forum Boards--this one seems right on time.

    Men and Women of color are the most diverse group of people on the planet. YET we can't get beyond this mistreatment of one another to PROGRESS.

    Maybe it will fizzle out, or maybe it will live and grow.

    But I've NEVER noticed other people of color running FROM who they are. Only African Americans have failed to embrace who we are...and who we WILL be.

    Mike Ramey



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  4. redlady

    redlady Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Mike, it IS about slave issues...light skinned and dark skinned, house *****, field *****...you do the math. I truly believe that NOT discussing that issue, getting past it, loving ONESELF and of course loving God is the best way to handle something you have no control over, and that is what color you were born with...whether it be darkest dark, or lightest light...LOVE IT! LOVE ALL OTHERS AS WELL and keep it moving.
     
  5. soulsistah16

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    i am a light skin sistah and i see sometimes how dark skin sistah treat me alittle different and i go back to when the spike lee movie ''SCHOOL DAZE'' came out and that movie did focus on this issue and i think that it is a big issue between balck folks no and days because alot of dark skin women think that light skin woemn are better then them and that is not all true and then sometimes the light skin thinks that the dark skin think that they are better women then the light skins so it is a big issus and we need to stop this between are skin colors.
    holla at me
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  6. Regina

    Regina Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I never had problems with the light skin/dark skin issue because my skin color is right in the middle of the Black skin spectrum. I do know people who are what the older generation deemed "colorstruck".

    My college boyfriend developed a complex because his frat brothers called him "Casper" because he was so fair. He actually would lie out in the sun putting on suntan lotion to get darker. I would tell him to forget them, because you are who you are and you'll develop skin cancer trying to please them. I grew up with a guy who had very dark skin. He was constantly teased and called "Tar Baby" and "Midnight".

    I think skin color is still an issue with some people. I hear comments from people all the time. People with dark skin want to marry people with light skin to balance out their children's color which doesn't always work. People with light skin want to marry people with dark skin because they don't want their kids not to be considered "Black enough".

    I actually know people to this day who rub their elbow and knees with lemons and will not let their children play outside in the summer when the sun is at its highest.

    Oh, and let's not mention the hair thing...good or bad?
     
  7. Mike Ramey

    Mike Ramey Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    And the truth comes out!

    We still 'look' at one another based on color. No 'slave' mentality is involved. Some folk use color to differentiate, and some to discriminate. Unfortunately, WE haven't grown past this...and didn't have any help to make it a reality.

    Mike Ramey
     
  8. Nfant_De_Milieu

    Nfant_De_Milieu Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Regina just about hit this topic on the head. I know being a "redbone" myself I got called a whiteboy sometimes. Even though the person may of been joking I never saw as a joke but as an attack. Being different is what makes us so unique. Attending a HCBU , Jackson State University Alumni :), being like usually the only red person in class, guess who got asked sometimes for to go half on a light skin green eye baby!! WTH!! I once over heard a group of girls talking and one said she wanted 2 kids, one dark skin and one red!! Yes, we need to embrace who we are. Why u think people rainbows so much, it is because of all the different colors!
     
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    UbZoRbShUn Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I love dark skin. It's so beautiful to me. I'm light skinned, mixed actually and don't want my babies to be confused about what they are. When I was a teen, light skin was in and that's what I liked too. But as I got older my tastes changed. I realized that being from two races is more of a headache than what it's worth.
     
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