Black Relationships : Liar or Cheater - Which is Worse

A honest cheater?

Hmmm... that would be difficult to swallow.
Liar, cheater... IMO, you can't be one without the other.

When some of us are not ready to let someone we love go,
it is very easy to make our situation tolerable.

The mind and how it works, or how we work it...
is very interesting.


Peace,
Coco
 
I assume you mean a cheater as in infidelity.. sexual nature.

regardless, I think a cheater is a liar no matter how you look at it - and a liar is a cheater, robbing me of truth.

I have a very low tolerance for both - equally.

my setiments exactly..

i think thery're 1 in the same
 
Correction - the liar is worse.

If I had to chose, it would be the cheater I would take.
When confronted, they will tell you 'yes.' The liar will deny it. I abhor liars.

When I'm working with my children, I noticed the lying will piss me off more than whatever action they sought to lie about. Them telling me the truth is important to me, and I try to foster a relationship with them that honors truth, and try to figure out an appropriate reprimand for the action that won't discourage me getting the truth from them in the future.


If a man tells me the truth of his actions - then we can discuss the action and come and try to come to a solution or compromise - whatever that be. Communication is paramount in any relationship I have.
But if he lies, it hinders communication and there is no discussion, no compromise, no solution, no follow-up; just bitter resentment to the lies and not knowing which is truth and which is false.


Well.... I guess it takes one to understand one.
 
To lie is human; not getting caught is divine.

Man is the only being
who can overcome himself.
His method is the Lie.
What makes one man
different from another
are the glorious possibilities
his lies contain.

- Christopher Hyatt

While we desperately yearn for the exotic and wondrous
our first act on meeting it is to turn it into ourselves.
— Hyatt

To have neither great desire nor great despair—
This — this is the goal of all "great" civilizations.
— Hyatt

When the world was made binary
man began to live in paradox.
With paradox came the priest,
the politician and the psychologist.
These three thieves of the soul
became the maker and solver of riddles,
making the poet and artist seem profound.
— Hyatt

Before this binary world—
the fearful was also sacred,
now the fearful is only fearful.
— Hyatt

You use names for things as though
they rigidly, persistently endured;
yet even the stream into which you
step a second time
is not the one you stepped into before.
— Heraclitus

THE ANTI-ZOMBIE THESIS
The foundation of all pathology is nihilism as a general
psychological state of experience.
Nihilism occurs when all ideological systems collapse—
and this includes the cereal meanings generated by culture.
The normal person avoids the extreme feelings of nihilism
by desperately clinging to those meanings and values implanted
by culture, childhood and a weak biology, regardless
of how irrational, painful and dull these meaning systems
seem to be.
Healing occurs when the person regains his feelings of
power and reinstates his ability to create meaning structures.
This theory is based on Friedrich Nietzsche's observation
that the world is a work of art, created by the self.
The "pathological" person is a failed artist, while the
"normal" person has accepted consensual art and, in this
sense, does not own the concept of personhood. In this context
it is important to constantly keep in mind that the person
himself is the work of art.
Healing occurs in the will to create and form the world
and self as one's own creation. The feeling of power, and
the rational application of it to the ends of ones own creation,
is the primary reflection of health.
 

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