Hey Fambly, Many whites today try to say that because African Americans use the N word that gives them permission to use it. This is poppycock and balderdash. Ask a white feminist since they fondly use the B word does that make it ok for a man to call them one? The other day I was talking to a neighbor. This guy is in a wheelchair and the subject of caregivers came up. Just out of no where he asks me do you know what my caregivers favorite word is? I said no. He said N please.WHAT DID YOU SAY? he said that's her favorite word she's a Black lady and she's always saying N please. I asked him who she says that to he says everybody. So I am standing there trying to wrap my brain around a Blacck woman say N pleease to a White guy. I can't do it. I told him I have to sleep on that because I don't use language like that. . He says I know how you are. I say how am I? He says you're all good. He was clearly looking for the back button to navigate his way out of any hard feelings I might have. Since they suddenly need our permission we have to make it clear that they do not have it. We can't let the language of one Black person who just doesn't care be used as justification for all Whtis at all times in front of anybody. You didn't hear me use it so just because you heard some other Black person use the word does not make it ok to use in my presence. Knowamsane?