The Front Porch : Letter From a Deadbeat to His Son

chuck

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It's not a "protocol." It's dishonest if you don't. You accepted all those "like" confirmations and posts of praise for what others thought was your LIFE, not your "writing style." You mixed fact with fiction WITHOUT the readers' knowledge, and that's not cool. Black children, children's social/emotional development, the black family and consequently, the mental health of the black community, are important. They should be treated in that same vein - as vital. Not as an accolade-hungry con man's shell game.
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Yes....I agree...But...I'm afraid some don't seem or sound like the future of the intact black family was or is an issue they need or want to help us find means and ways to preserve or protect...

FYI...

In most cases the subject isn't even discussed... My way of contributing is to find creative ways of bringing the subject to the table where discussion can take place, because I believe if we do not communicate with each other the victims (our young brothers) will continue to suffer in silence.
 

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In most cases the subject isn't even discussed... My way of contributing is to find creative ways of bringing the subject to the table where discussion can take place, because I believe if we do not communicate with each other the victims (our young brothers) will continue to suffer in silence.
The means must justify the ends too...

Respect and trust are too easy to lose, difficult at best to win, when it comes to our young folks...

I. e., some are confused and frightened, though few take the time etc. to find out why...

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Some ARE heavily into denial about the way things are NOW...

Those who aren't have to face up to THAT fact TOO...

FYI

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I would agree with your point if I was a seasoned member of the site. As you can tell the piece was my very first post. I may not be as deep as many of you on this site but what I am good at, is framing social issues in a creative way.

Rest assured, that I am used to comments like yours and it doesn't phase me one bit. I don't have time to waste on negativity. If people are upset because I didn't say the story was fiction, then we are in worst shape than I thought. In my profile I did say the I was a poet, but one that also told stories.

Moving on...
 

chuck

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I would agree with your point if I was a seasoned member of the site. As you can tell the piece was my very first post. I may not be as deep as many of you on this site but what I am good at, is framing social issues in a creative way.

Rest assured, that I am used to comments like yours and it doesn't phase me one bit. I don't have time to waste on negativity. If people are upset because I didn't say the story was fiction, then we are in worst shape than I thought. In my profile I did say the I was a poet, but one that also told stories.

Moving on...
One seeks to learn from their mistakes, not blur the distinction, i. e., between being berated as opposed to what was meant to be constructive criticism...

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From a Father’s Point of View



I guess this is something that I have to live with. There hasn’t been a day when my son hasn’t crossed my mind, every little-league game I see on TV brings back some of the best days of my life when I used to teach him how to catch in the backyard.

Time is running out and before I know it, he will be a man and then it will be that much harder to tell my side of the story. Even though it was easy for me to get up and leave, I still pay the price of leaving my son behind. I know I run the risk of missing out on the chance to teach him some of life’s most intriguing lessons that I have learned over the years.

I often thought about my dad and wonder if it was because of his absence why I end up following in his footstep and treated my son the very same way. These are the questions many men who can afford it, ask their psychiatrist while laying on their couch. I know that there are a lot of people who have negative things to say about me but the only opinion that matters to me is that of my son's.

The feeling of abandonment I know is difficult and I’m sure cannot be easy for a young boy to deal with. I know he has been giving his mother and teachers hell, this pretty much sounds like I will have to face the music and go and rescue my son before some drug dealer gets a hold of him. Its one thing to feel like you have let one person down, but it’s a whole other feeling to think that you have let down an entire generation.

My dad has already done his damage to me and even though I knew better, the fact that I did the same thing he did, only makes me that much more angry. I will not place the blame on him, the blame stops here, I am the reason my son is going through life fatherless, fatherless… it sounds like I’m already dead.

For what it’s worth, things could have been much worse as my mom would always say, I could have been behind bars as so many of my friends from the old neighborhood are or be taken out altogether. So there is no other option, my son deserves to know that his father still exists and that he is very much loved by a man who wants to be in his life.

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Thanks for joining us and sharing! Quite an interesting story!

Please make yourself right at home, because you are!

Much Love and Peace.

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