Black Relationships : Ladies, What to you makes a Brother unattractive?


Watch Her Flow
Mar 22, 2004
Where the Niger meets the Nile
anAfrican said:
It's because of your sig
What does my sig have to do with the songs that come on my Windows Media Player?


Well-Known Member
May 14, 2005
I like a man who knows who and what he is and can be assertive with his brainpower. A man who blows whichever way the wind blows or who can't stand up for what he believes is very unappealing to me.


Well-Known Member
Jan 22, 2004
Riada said:
A man who blows whichever way the wind blows or who can't stand up for what he believes is very unappealing to me.
That's a very important quality. :welldone: Thinking for yourself is essential.


Well-Known Member
Aug 11, 2003
Da' Gump
Scheduling Coordinator for large Health System
TURNOFFS : to name a few...

chauvinistic/cave man mentality :hulk:
violent natured
rude/bad tempered/unfriendly/uncaring/insensitive nature
overly contentious/argumentative
self centered
overly judgmental
wanton promiscuity (usually while expecting women to be saints... :hammer2: ... go figure )
poor personal cleanliness habits...or a total lack thereof
complacency - no drive, ambition, or dreams
ill mannered/boorish/braggartly


Active Member
Jul 3, 2005
The men that really turn me off are those who :
1. insist on acting like boys
2. are into that whole 'gagsta, dope boy' thing (now, don't get me wrong...I can appreciate a little roughness every now and then...)
3. lie for no reason
4. are soft, the pretty boy type
5. don't take a side, instead they straddle the fence
6. don't have a mission/purpose (because where purpose is not known abuse is inevitable)
7. can't get converse beyond "Hey girl" "****, you sexy" or (this is the one I hate the most!) "Ay, girl in the blue, with the fat ***" (you will catch my fist in your jaw for that!)

I prefer a darker skinned man with a creative style of his own. One who doesn't fit into one precise category, but is a well-rounded mix. Oh, and I love conversation, from politics to fashion...I love a guy who can capture and keep my attention via conversation

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