Black Relationships : Ladies, what is your definition of a real man/woman?

[Ralfa'il]

Shasta

If someone with a name like "Shasta" ain't a real woman, I don't know who is.

A real woman/man is able to handle his/herself weather it be paying bills, or taking care of a child that shows your mature but also that you have crossed the line from child to adult hood and able to make sound decisions

Well either you're a real woman, or not really a woman...

So do you think a female who is physically mature but mentally/emotionally immature should not be called a woman?

Should we have a separate term for physically grown females who think like ding-bats?




Destee

i think a real woman is anyone that reaches adulthood, that was born with a vagina.

i think a real man is anyone that reaches adulthood, that was born with a penis.

That's real enough for me.

Ya know....I was thinking the same thing.

And that's for real.....

 

[panafrica]

i think a real woman is anyone that reaches adulthood, that was born with a vagina.

i think a real man is anyone that reaches adulthood, that was born with a penis.

That's real enough for me.

Now that is about as basic an answer as you can possibly get! If the terms of this question changes from "real" to "responsible" it becomes something else entirely!

 

[karmashines]

Now that is about as basic an answer as you can possibly get! If the terms of this question changes from "real" to "responsible" it becomes something else entirely!

I agree, though I tend to be one of those types that equates true man/womanhood with taking responsibility rather than hitting a certain age.

 

[Ralfa'il]

Pan

Now that is about as basic an answer as you can possibly get! If the terms of this question changes from "real" to "responsible" it becomes something else entirely!

That's was the point I was getting at.

If we have a problem with the behavior and irresponsibility of our men then we should conentrate on pointing these problems out not castrate them.

Everytime I turn on the television or listen to the radio you have people shaking their finger and chiding bruthaz telling them to "be a man" "why don't you be a real man".

A real man by WHOSE standards?

Isn't this what white men have done historically by castrating us mentally and sometimes physically and then questioning our manhood?


This will only create more backlash and encourage the confused among us to engaging in more reckless irresponsible sex and senseless violence in a confused attempt to prove their manhood.


Just because he's not a good or responsible man, don't say he's not a man.


Although it's not verbalized as much, it's the same with our women.

They've been told in so many words that they aren't as feminine and "lady like" as white women for so long that many attempt to prove their womanhood by overemphasizing their sexuality or having children when they really aren't prepared to show that she's now a woman and can.

 

[1hotvirgowoman]

I agree, though I tend to be one of those types that equates true man/womanhood with taking responsibility rather than hitting a certain age.

Exactly- 'cause there be some grown-*** Men/Women running around acting and thinking like children!.