Black Relationships : Ladies: What are your "not interested" signs?

[legit-writer]

And what exactly do you say if a guy is being persistent???

ignore him basically.

 

[MsInterpret]

ignore him basically.

Sometimes that doesn't work...which is why I tell them I'll mace them and show them my pepper spray gun.

 

[legit-writer]

Sometimes that doesn't work...which is why I tell them I'll mace them and show them my pepper spray gun.

That's basically stalkerish, but I guess I was thinking in terms of normal circumstances. lol

 

[MimiBelle]

persistent?

I know that this will embolden some men but its possible for a man to wear me down.I like a funny man but in a way? I think it says a lot about a man who won't take a simple 'no' for an answer. a man who won't respect a woman's boundaries and...imo...a lot of men are like that.

....and then these guys wonder why women look as if they dont wanna be bothered....

i dont care how much a man claims that he wants this-- they'd b in a mood too if they had to put up with catcalls/ field idiot *** women left and right all day long. it cld be a situation where you just had words with a man who approachd in a disrespectful or overly persistant manner. he walks off and another gets in your face not even 5 min later. im human and by then...my patience is shot. my face is all screwed up and im just lookin at the guy like " *sigh* Yes? hi...yes. Okay...lets get on with it. wtf do YOU want?"

this usually occurs in a nightclub/bar/night out setting.

men that you meet in the daytime who arent pursuing when their friends are around...are far less irritating, in my experiences. if a man has a male audience? he's going to b that much more annoying.

anyway. ...
when I was single dealing with persistence? I'd usually just lie. tell them that I had someone. > shrug < that doesn't stop them all as you may well know. stops plenty though. ive found that you getva better response when youre wearing a ring though.

for the most part...I'm respectful about it. truly.

for one...it takes a lot for someone to approach. I respect that. I dont approach men so i undetstand..and
'm not out to break anyone's self esteem.

also..
a lotta men do not handle rejection well and I'm a petite woman.

so...I have no true pointers. lol

what worked/s for me?
say 'no' repeatedly and refuse eye contact. Dont look at him!

if he keeps on?

Walk faster. lol

it may b rude but this is strictly for the males who dont understand english bc. they're too busy trying to hard-sell themselves and close the deal.

him: you got a man?
me: no?
him: why not?
(its a setup. deflect the question!)
him: you want a friend?
me: no.
him: why not?

No one has time for that. lol.

 

[Angela22]

Ladies, sometimes you have a guy who is interested in you, hits on you, asks you out on a date...but he is persistent....what are some signs or ways to tell him that you are not interested in him?

One sign is me showing interest in other topics to be talked about rather than entertaining him hitting on me; one way is to be upfront each time he hits on me and move away from him if he can't quite grip the point.