Black Relationships : Ladies: What are your "not interested" signs?

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  1. MsInterpret

    MsInterpret Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Ladies, sometimes you have a guy who is interested in you, hits on you, asks you out on a date...but he is persistent....what are some signs or ways to tell him that you are not interested in him?
     
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    I don't show signs; I just tell him up front. I'm too old for those games.
     
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    That's why I said signs or ways to say..
     
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    yeah some like to lead a person on, but I know that for the most part, guys rather you be direct with them, and tell them what's up. Plus, that's how I was raised to be, honest and straight to the point.
     
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    And what exactly do you say if a guy is being persistent???
     
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    ignore him basically.
     
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    Sometimes that doesn't work...which is why I tell them I'll mace them and show them my pepper spray gun.
     
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    That's basically stalkerish, but I guess I was thinking in terms of normal circumstances. lol
     
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    persistent?

    I know that this will embolden some men but its possible for a man to wear me down.I like a funny man but in a way? I think it says a lot about a man who won't take a simple 'no' for an answer. a man who won't respect a woman's boundaries and...imo...a lot of men are like that.

    ....and then these guys wonder why women look as if they dont wanna be bothered....

    i dont care how much a man claims that he wants this-- they'd b in a mood too if they had to put up with catcalls/ field idiot *** women left and right all day long. it cld be a situation where you just had words with a man who approachd in a disrespectful or overly persistant manner. he walks off and another gets in your face not even 5 min later. im human and by then...my patience is shot. my face is all screwed up and im just lookin at the guy like " *sigh* Yes? hi...yes. Okay...lets get on with it. wtf do YOU want?"

    this usually occurs in a nightclub/bar/night out setting.

    men that you meet in the daytime who arent pursuing when their friends are around...are far less irritating, in my experiences. if a man has a male audience? he's going to b that much more annoying.

    anyway. ...
    when I was single dealing with persistence? I'd usually just lie. tell them that I had someone. > shrug < that doesn't stop them all as you may well know. stops plenty though. ive found that you getva better response when youre wearing a ring though.

    for the most part...I'm respectful about it. truly.

    for one...it takes a lot for someone to approach. I respect that. I dont approach men so i undetstand..and
    'm not out to break anyone's self esteem.

    also..
    a lotta men do not handle rejection well and I'm a petite woman.

    so...I have no true pointers. lol

    what worked/s for me?
    say 'no' repeatedly and refuse eye contact. Dont look at him!

    if he keeps on?

    Walk faster. lol

    it may b rude but this is strictly for the males who dont understand english bc. they're too busy trying to hard-sell themselves and close the deal.

    him: you got a man?
    me: no?
    him: why not?
    (its a setup. deflect the question!)
    him: you want a friend?
    me: no.
    him: why not?

    No one has time for that. lol.
     
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    One sign is me showing interest in other topics to be talked about rather than entertaining him hitting on me; one way is to be upfront each time he hits on me and move away from him if he can't quite grip the point.
     
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