Black Women : Ladies are we too outspoken?

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  1. nevar

    nevar Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I don't know about you but I do know about me. I have a very major problem and that is being too outspoken in my relationship. I feel if your man isn't doing right he can't expect me to follow. If you fooling around, and I know your fooling around what authority do you have over me. He has told me and others that a woman who has a mouth can't keep no man. I say it's because you don't want to hear me tell it like it is. My mom spoke her mind so why can't I. Ladies can a woman who run her mouth all the time can be a turn off to men. As I was writing this, this reminded me about Sophia in Color Purple how outspoken she was. And Ms. Celia told Harpo to beat her to keep her in line. So with that said are we suppose to just stay in a woman place which is too be seen and not heard....:SuN042:
     
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    Interesting can't wait to hear the ladies on this one ........
     
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    You have certainly hit the nail on the head of my experiences in the form of faulty messages received. The faulty message being that "I TALK TOO MUCH". I've come to know as you suggest, that the other has a difficult time listening to learn who I am, what I know, my purpose and plan for being here and even with them.
    I've also come to know that the messages of how I'm to behave as a Wombman is faulty as well. That is because it comes from the mind of the european male and his cultural story and legacy. If they chose to step off cause I am able to use the Voice Given by the Creator and Ancestors, a Voice LOADED with KNOWLEDGE, PURPOSE AND A PLAN..then it is a deficiency or failure on their part and not mine!
    My answer is a resounding NO! and that I learned, is a COMPLETE SENTENCE!

    Thanks for asking and Listening to....

    M.E.
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    you can never be too outspoken in a "loving" relationship

    if u don't want a man that cheats and he cheats and u stay it's not about outspoken...

    u can say whatever but if ur stay and put up with it that in essence u already gave up the authority cause ur action ain't matching ur feelin...

    a woman's place is to be seen and not heard
    they say that about children also.... which prompted most of my lashings

    a woman is not a child a woman

    why would u wanna "keep" a man

    instead of training each other like "dogs" why not trust each others as equals

    and actaully finding someone who wants an "equal"
     
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    MRS. LADY Banned MEMBER

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    I'm feeling what ur sayin Sister Tru

    thing is I find people who are really interested in what i am saying

    most "men" know we are smart.... so they ask their questions on the low, or disguised real talk

    be/have .... u c the problem with this word Sister... be this/have that

    be ..... you... be blessed

    "failure" ... ur still defining by taught definition meaning ur accessing ur logic .....

    ur being the "logic" ...

    IMHO once u learn the sentence and what it "means"

    don't stop

    be/come the thought

    be/born





    Love Mrs. Lady
     
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    MRS. LADY Banned MEMBER

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    THIS IS THE ART OF OVERSTANDING....


    BE THIS
    ______

    HAVE THAT


    BE

    ________

    BE

    MATH AND LANGUAGE NOT LOGIC, C I'M DIVIDING MOM
     
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    To be honest we really do wish more sisters would be outspoken
     
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    In my life, I have observed or experienced different kinds of examples of the opposite sex....

     
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    Sister Nevar ... Hey Sweetie ... good to be reading you again.

    Interesting questions you've posed. I don't really remember a man (of mine) suggesting that i talk too much ... :look:

    In fact, whenever i have been talking to him, he was focused, hungry even, for my words and attention ... almost salivating.

    That could be though, because he was chained in a basement, isolated and alone ... without food or water ... until i returned to him ... :nuts:

    Hmmmm ... maybe the key is to be willing to keep a captive audience ... by any means necessary ... :wink:

    Love You!

    :heart:

    Destee
     
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    ladies are we too...

    i've never met a black woman that wasn't outspoken from my dear mother to my wife,hahahaha talk on black women but know this....MOST OF THE TIME WE TUNE YOU OUT ANYHOW!!
     
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