Black Relationships : just a clue............

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  1. jamesfrmphilly

    jamesfrmphilly going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    I've noticed a lot of sisters seem to be in bad situations.
    men who abuse them in one way or another.

    why do they marry or get engaged to these losers?
    are women so eager to get married that they will take any creep who comes along as long as he is willing to marry?

    sisters, stop this!

    stop letting yourself be played.
    please stop letting yourself be hurt.
    it breaks my heart some of the stories i have read.

    let me tell you some thing from the man's point of view.
    if a man sees a woman he wants to play, the most effective way to do that is to offer marriage.
    now a days you only have to offer to live with them.

    for some reason as long as you offer to stay with her and marry her, a woman will lay down and give you anything.

    sisters, please stop.

    I'm a man and i can't take much more of hearing from sisters how badly they have been played.

    sisters are so desperate to marry they will take any thing as long as he will marry them.
    a player can run his entire operation from your home as your man if you volunteer to be his slave.
    a player knows this.

    he can have you and others too.
    marriage is one of the oldest tricks in the players book.
    i beg my sisters to stop being such suckers for the players of this world.

    if he wants to marry you it should be in order for him to take care of you, not the other way around.
    if a man can not provide, he don't need to be no daddy.

    why are you letting all these men up in your stuff without no rubbers?
    your get the babies, you get the STDs.
    you are left crying the blues while he is out in someone else's stuff.

    why do you do that?
    sisters, please, come correct.

    cross your legs and keep them crossed.
    buy a vibrator.

    protect your self!

    i love my sisters and I'm tired of seeing them so low.
     
  2. kente417mojo

    kente417mojo Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Man, you could've left that part out. What are you trying to do? Don't mess it up for every other brotha.
    :cry: :lol:
     
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    yeah i noticed james is harsh alot of times in his post and responses .. sometimes seems down right cold etc...however i for the most part agree with him...it goes deeper than us.. its easier said than done i guess for some women i dont understand it but hey who only knows what goes on in someone mind..... no one is perfect and should learn from errors now if one keep making that same error than dam.. one must learn the hard way... again i agree

    sistas please understand your worth!!!

    soulfulmixx:hearts4:
     
  4. jamesfrmphilly

    jamesfrmphilly going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    i can't help it, i'm a scorpio.
     
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    kente417mojo Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I definately agree that women need to have more respect for themselves, but to suggest women to cross their legs and keep them crossed hurts my heart. :tongue: Women need to be more selective...not remain virgins until marriage (which will probably end in divorce anyways). DOn't let men beat you, don't allow second chances if they cheat, make sure they're employed and about something...but don't become a nun. That's no good for anyone. Sex is healthy in a relationship, and to tell women otherwise will make them remain unmarried and alone for eternity.
     
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    alright, ladies keep it locked up except when around my man Kente. :dance:
     
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    miss-no-love Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I also agree with yall, for me being young at my age I am avery strong black woman, I feel that some woman should have more respect for theirself, if they don't respect theirselves they shouldn't be suprise if others wont respect them.

    When you see yaself in the mirror the image wont always be yourself :hearthis:
     
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    You ladies here that? Listen to james!!!

    I do agree brotha. It is troubling to see so many women used and abused these days because they lack self-worth and the confidence to realize that they don't have to settle for less.
     
  9. CarrieMonet

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    Nice message James, I couldn't agree more.

    Sometimes I think SOME women have a problem being single and get involved with someone just so they aren't alone.
     
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    the thing is, men will play you if they can.

    anybody can get got.

    it's not a matter of respect so much as street smarts and knowing the game.
    young girls are fed a mish mash of romantic BS that sets them up for the kill.
    the player comes along and exploits all that crap that has already been put into the young girls head.

    you ladies need to learn the game.
    you are getting beat badly.

    you got what every body wants, don't get played so cheap.
     
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