- Aug 27, 2013
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I was banned from a conversation near and dear to my heart after asking, in what I believe to be a respectful manner, for a source of a claim that I believed to be false. Within the same post, I stated my opinion that:
1) I believe it to be a mistake when a child is born out of wedlock.
2) It is preventable from both the men and the woman's side of the issue.
3) Both the man and the woman are at fault.
4) IMO, the man is more responsible than the woman. (If he wants to call himself a MAN)
It is a well documented fact that fatherlessness is the common denominator in many negative life consequences. As an example, over 85% of all prison inmates come from fatherless homes.
This issue is near and dear to my heart because I am the product of a fatherless home. My mother did a great job of doing the job of mother and father. She also kept me in the presence of strong, positive role models such as my Grandfather and uncles. Even still, I know first hand that there is no replacement for a father AND a mother in the home.
Since the effects of fatherlessness is well documented and undeniable, and our rate of OOW childbirth is in excess of 70% it is an issue that requires mature and honest discussion. This can be done in a respectful manner.
A 70% OOW childbirth rate is a problem. A discussion which allows false claims to go unquestioned and considers respectfully presented opposing views to be disruptive will make some people fell better about the mistakes they made which contribute to the 70% OOW rate, but it will never result in the problem being solved or even acknowledged to be a problem.
I understand and respect the demand for a discussion that doesn't include ugly and demeaning talk against single mothers. My own mother was a single parent and I hold her in high esteem for the sacrifice and struggle that she endured to raise me. Acknowledging the mistake that resulted in this magnificent human being (Me ) doesn't equate to demeaning the woman that I love, respect, and appreciate nor is it being disruptive.
Fatherlessness is nothing to celebrate, it's a problem to address.
1) I believe it to be a mistake when a child is born out of wedlock.
2) It is preventable from both the men and the woman's side of the issue.
3) Both the man and the woman are at fault.
4) IMO, the man is more responsible than the woman. (If he wants to call himself a MAN)
It is a well documented fact that fatherlessness is the common denominator in many negative life consequences. As an example, over 85% of all prison inmates come from fatherless homes.
This issue is near and dear to my heart because I am the product of a fatherless home. My mother did a great job of doing the job of mother and father. She also kept me in the presence of strong, positive role models such as my Grandfather and uncles. Even still, I know first hand that there is no replacement for a father AND a mother in the home.
Since the effects of fatherlessness is well documented and undeniable, and our rate of OOW childbirth is in excess of 70% it is an issue that requires mature and honest discussion. This can be done in a respectful manner.
A 70% OOW childbirth rate is a problem. A discussion which allows false claims to go unquestioned and considers respectfully presented opposing views to be disruptive will make some people fell better about the mistakes they made which contribute to the 70% OOW rate, but it will never result in the problem being solved or even acknowledged to be a problem.
I understand and respect the demand for a discussion that doesn't include ugly and demeaning talk against single mothers. My own mother was a single parent and I hold her in high esteem for the sacrifice and struggle that she endured to raise me. Acknowledging the mistake that resulted in this magnificent human being (Me ) doesn't equate to demeaning the woman that I love, respect, and appreciate nor is it being disruptive.
Fatherlessness is nothing to celebrate, it's a problem to address.