just for Kemetstry....well not just Kem. a black coworker confided in me recently. He has been bothered for a couple weeks about his girlfriend of 4 and 1/2 years. and yes, HE stressed the 1/2 year. LOL he and his girlfriend had been having problems, arguing alot. he suggested they take alittle time so they could find some peace. well she ends up getting involved with and having sex with another guy, only after two weeks they are doing things that he built up to in their 4 years together. my coworkers, obviously, is upset, heartbroken. well it turns out that she is a white woman, her parents adore him and his aunt who he says is a "prophet" tells him to stay with the woman because she will need him. so nevermind that this is the second time she has cheated on him. he seems to be a nice, southern gentleman type of guy, he calls me "ma'am". (****, am i that old?) anyway he's college educated, has goals, works with children, etc. he is orginally from houston but now here in Minnesota he is experiencing the attention white women give the black men here (and elsewhere. not that this is anything new...) he says how he met this woman: he and another black male are out at a club known for the aggressiveness of white women. in fact, many of us black woman long ago stopped going because not only were the white women disrespecting us but the black men allowed it. he is new to town and uncomfortable at first until his black male friend tells him, "it's cool man". well this woman will not stop seeing the other guy. he has three children but three different women, young and interracial. recently he says he ran into his ex, at HER parent's house. I asked him what was he doing at their house? he said they told him to keep in contact. i told him i would be upset if i broke up with him and then see him at my parents' house. but then i asked if he was really over her. he is not. i was disappointed in him for several reasons, including being with a white girl. he's a professional, attractive, charming, and has been taking care of this girl, paying rent and such. he's 26, she's 22. i'm also disappointed because he's still trying to win back a woman who cheated on him twice. i told him that i tell him like i would tell one of my female friends, "she's not the one". he admits to being disgusted by the things she has told him about her sex with the other guy. he admits that he thinks of her as being a whore, though he didn't use that word. he asked me why i was bothered by black men and white women because God allows them to procreate. I told him that though that is true, he is letting a white woman abused and misused him when he could have seeking a good black woman. i did emphasis that it wasn't about black and white. but that i thought he was deserving of someone who wanted his love. soooo, Kemetstry, men set themselves up too.