Black People : Is this a race thing, a gender thing, or a parent thing?

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  1. ManicRaider

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    In the past
    I know that my posts are notorious for being a little "out there" and this is mostly going to be another one. Here's the thing, when I'm out shopping and I walk past a white woman (or couple) with kids, I always notice that they call them in closer. I'm not walking inappropriately close to them, just walking the proper distance like everyone else. I never see this happen when a white guy walks past them.

    In the present
    Yesterday, me and my sister were out shopping and this happened. But I don't see how the lady even saw me, because my sister was near them, but not me. This is why I assume it's a black thing, because she saw my sister and called them in closer. So this has me wondering, is it a race thing (me and my sister being black), a gender thing (people cautious of men being around their kids), or a parent thing (parents just do this for safety).

    Side note
    Btw, I understand fully why a parent would call their kids closer to them in public. However, I find it weird that you'd let them run off in a crowed, public area and as soon as a stranger comes, you scream for them to get over to you. It makes no sense. You and your kids are not the only ones in that store. Why not just keep them close by default?
     
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    I would draw the babies closer too, if they were happening upon strangers in public.

    The children would be in the way of others, folk gotta walk on 'em, and they are not safe.

    So like you said ... it should be by default ... but parents aren't perfect.

    It is a parenting thing and I think your posts are great!

    Welcome Home!

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    Not enough info. You can usually tell when it's a race thing






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    It's a parent thing.
     
  6. ManicRaider

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    You might be right, then again, there are people with way busier lives than I, who notice similar things.

    It's not that I expect them to be perfect parents, just have a little common sense is all. I'm kinda getting tired of going the long way around an aisle just to avoid some kid who I couldn't care less about.

    There is no more info. When I walk around a store I'm just walking and looking at things on the shelves. I don't even glance over at anyone, even if I need something that's near them.
     
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    It could be either. But, I did the same thing, and for me it was a parent thing. I remember this old white lady assuming she had the right to get in my 2 year olds face, I mean her face was about two inches from his. And, he balled up his fist and punched her in her mug.

    What I am saying is that I always reeled my kid in not only to protect him from strangers, but, also to keep him from being a nuisance to people who may not be as amused by his antics as I am.

    Some people think their kids are the cutest kids in the world. They allow their precocious children to carry on with adults who aren't impressed, when they are seeking attention from strangers.
     
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    When it's a race thing you will feel the eyes and tude on you





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    either way.. why does it bother you?
     
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    I believe it's all of the above, if you're observing this behavior enough to cause you to raise the question. As a person, one should be careful, as a Black person living in America, you tend to see things that people who are not marginalized may be oblivious to and as a parent, understanding how real human trafficking is globally and how children get taken every day, you'd better be hyper-sensitive to your surroundings.
     
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