Either our standards are set too high (not higher than we can personally fill), we're in the wrong places at the wrong times, or it is a pipedream to maintain faith that SOME Ebony men out there are going to appreciate and respect an Ebony woman who is fully up to the challenge of building something meaningful and establishing & perpetuating Ebony-on-Ebony Love. I know of too many of us who have given (or are presently giving) our all, only to be betrayed, underappreciated, taken for granted, backstabbed, dishonored, disgraced--you name the negative return--by the men in whom we place our faith. What has gone wrong with Ebony men? Even those who many regard as respectable individuals, those who are supposed to be "conscious", those who are "supposed" to be pro-black, pro-family, you name it, seem to turn out to be impostors. This has been my recent experience, and the experience of more than one sisterfriend. How does a black man, reared by a black woman (and her black man) just remorselessly take advantage of the interest of HIS black woman, and attempt to degrade her in return for her good efforts? Do black women go too far to please their men or something? Do good "girls" TRULY finish last?