Black Relationships : Is there a big difference between dating Latin VS. Black Men Or Woman

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  1. Tantrum

    Tantrum Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I have dated black Sistas my whole life
    They are wonderful beautiful woman
    I love them as much as any brother

    Yet I have been dating Latin Woman lately
    I think that are just as inspirational
    Just as uplifting and can also cook
    Just as good as a black woman in my opinion

    Is there a reall big difference in dating the two
    Beside the obvious two races??
    Cant a hispanic man or woman make someone just as happy??
    Is there really a reason to look at someone different if they date a latin woman??

    I really like to know
    Cause I love Black Sistas
    But I definetly Love Latin Sisters as well
    My Ex was from Venezuela I mean straight beautiful
    So what do you all think of this?????
     
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    Tantrum......

    It depends on if you choose to continue your bloodline or not. Is that not the most obvious factor in being Black? Too many Black people are NOT concerned whether or not we survive in America(racially). The surefire way to measure the racial atmosphere is if you witness BW being respected/loved EN MASSE, being that we've endured #ell from every angle, and had to stand as a woman at that. It seems logically, that the main way for that to happen is for BM to do it. How can that happen when there are 2 million more of us than you.....let alone giving yourself away to 'other' races. I have no bearing on who you date, JMHO.
     
  3. IfUComeSoftly

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    I think that, generally speaking, that there is a great difference. Typically, in the men that I've dated, Hispanic men are more family oriented. They support you more. They can be a lot nicer. They also can be a hell of lot more jealous. They are extremely hard working, AT least the ones that I have dated. Granted these men were not 'americanized' yet; they were all fairly new to the country.
    Mind you these are generalizations AND my grandfather is Cuban; therefore, I can talk about my own people...
    Now, I love a brotha. Do not entertain the possibility that I do not... My man is a brotha... HOwever, one of the last men I dated was Honduran.... One thing I noticed is that Black men are more receptive to women working outside of the house and continuing their education. MOst of the Hispanic families I am around let the man do most of the talking with business and/or in public EVEN IF the women's english is better. A lot of things are different.... Basically I think the major differences are cultural differences...
    going back to the aforementioned... they have not been 'americanized' yet....

    just my two cents...
     
  4. Tantrum

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    I feel you sister
    I think that continuing my blood line
    Would be very difficult since I am
    Parshly white/black and spanish
    I have a black farther and a spanish/white mother
    I think that theory of dating outside of your race
    Is essentially killing your race isnt logical
    Not saying you said hat/Yet a lot of people feel that way
    People call me a mutt I never get offended
    Jealousy is a crazy thing and there is plenty of it
    I cant help that my hair is the way it is
    Or how my up bringing was/Cause my up bringing was worse than alot
    I know that for a fact/Yet I see that dating outside of your race
    Or marrying outside of your race is not bad
    It is just self evolving from traditions
    There are alot of Brothers they dont agree with that
    Yet everyone was raced different and that doesnt make us
    Not Black enough or not one with the Unity of our race
    Yet we expanded our principle outreach as far as what we want out of life...
    My personal opinion!!!
     
  5. Tantrum

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    Thats how I was raised
    For the woman to stay home
    And the man to take care of things
    I feel that I dont really want my woman to work
    I like being the one to take care of things
    Thats just me though
    There are alot of men who prefer there woman to work
    My mother stayed home took care of things
    Because thats how she was raised that a woman should be
    My father just never said or had a problem with it
    I think that doesnt make a woman less of a woman
    Yet stronger in different ways/Mind-Body & Soul
    Mind for the feeling knowing her man will take care of everything she needs
    Body knowing that she doesnt have to work a nine to five
    Stress herself and have the peace of mind she has a strong man
    Soul well it speaks for itself if the Mind & Body are satisfied
    The soul will enrich in the fruits of happiness
    Latin woman are very hard working/So are Black Woman
    I really see no difference just up bringing is a big difference
     
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    There is a huge difference!
    If that's part of your heritage, than I don't see why you asked the question.
     
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    This is absolutely correct sister Cursed Heart. Hispanic is a culture, not a race or nationality. Hispanics can be white, black, indian, or a mix between the three. Unless the person you are talking about is a Hispanic of black heritage, then you are in an interracial relationship. However, since brother Tantrum is already half Hispanic, he can date a black or Hispanic woman with neither group being significantly effected.
     
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    dat IR thing, it just won't go away.
     
  9. IfUComeSoftly

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    Since I had nothing better to do!!!

    I never said that, and neither did you, I had a problem with these things. Those were just general characteristics that I've picked up on.

    The not working thing... Well anyone that knows me, knows that I'm on a one track road to law school so I just can't see getting my juris doctorate and then not working; however, i only want to consult part time and be a full time wife and mother. I want all these things... It has nothing to do with being 1/4 cuban b/c i wasn't raised around my family. i wasn't aware that my grandfather was my grandfather until i was a teenager. if i had the choice I wouldnt' work now But being a single parent.. there is no other recourse.

    my family, the ones that I am close to, is full of single black women. Battle women, who we are, have that I can do all by myself mentality. I think... black women do their daugthers a disservice by telling them that they 'don't need a man.' and YES... plenty say that...

    What the HELL? My abuelita before she passed always asked me about a husband. always... she was proud of me for all that i do and all that i am BUT she recognized that having a (good supportive) husband was just as important if not more important than other things... i hate my other side of the family doesn't see it like that...

    I may not need a man to survive BUT I sure as helll want one. A lot of black women do not feel this way. Most hispanic women do not... JUST my two cents....

    And.. you hit the nail on the head with this stressing on this 9-5 gig. Lord knows... I need me a break. And life seems a whole lot easier when you have a supportive man on your side... :great:

    So there are differences... BUT again... I say the differences are cultural differences... that's how YOU were raised... I wasn't raised to think the way I do... my people hate it when i talk about that BUT hey to each his own...
     
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    No it won't....
     
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