Black People : Is Polygyny A Viable Option for Black People?

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  1. Senegal

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    I am probably going to get a ton of flack for this but let me state now that I personally couldnt handle more than one wife. LOL!

    However, I know that in Africa our people practiced this since the beginning of time and in some parts still do. What are the pros and cons of such a set up? The reason I am asking is because I was approached with this concept by two Black women before I got married to my wife. Of course I immediately thought of all the benefits (for me) but then I got to thinking how it wouldnt work here in the US because of how we are socialized. Anyone have any thoughts on the topic?
     
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    no.....
     
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    when most men think of polygyny, they think of having access to more than one woman--more sex. But with more access, comes more responsibility. Most of us struggle, in our financial responsibilities, to care for one wife. factor that by two, or three, etc. As a working man, can you afford to care for two, or three, wives? Are you able to referee, or be the voice of reason, between two, or three, women...who may be constantly at each other's throat? I understand that people in such relationships live under different rules but, generally speaking, more than one woman in a house isn't a good thing. Aside from the financial obligations, as you age, do you think you could handle more than one woman, physically or emotionally?

    Polygyny isn't just about sex, there are a host of other things--a way of life--that goes with it. The idea of it may appeal to you, but does the lifestyle of it?
     
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    I need more verbiage. Explain why not.
     
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    The rules of polygyny in Africa state you can only have as many women as you can afford. How did our ancestors make it work for them? How do they make it work now? I honestly think its just our socialization and conditioning that keeps this from working smoothly here in the states. We grow up with a totally different concept of whats acceptable and expected in marriage. I know with the current mindset of women in the US more than one wife will not cut it. Drive you crazy to be honest. However, the benefits to women with children that have no fathers would be enormous.
     
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    :10900: no......
     
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    A large number of uninformed individuals believe polygamy only applies to males having multiple wives but a female is not exempted from this rather bizarre arrangement. Personally I would have nothing to do with this practice either as a woman roosting over several males or being one of many women on a shelf awaiting my turn to do whatever a man would expect me to do. I don't even want one man in my life distracting me from my singular worship of GOD for I am his child craven in his Holy image.

     
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    :11100:in that case there will no no little worshippers to carry on......
     
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    I've considered this before. If I was get involved in a polygamous relationship, where I was 1 of multiple wives......
    (1) I will NOT lift my finger to work any job.
    (2) I will have servants for everything
    (3) I will have glamorous accommodations for myself and my children
    (4) I will have a minimum 5 figure spending allowance per month
    (5) I will have a luxury car with a driver
    (6) I will have my own home, though it can be part of a compound
    This list is subject to grow....
     
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