Black Relationships : Is it weird when you go and life with youre mom again for a while?

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  1. Auroraflower

    Auroraflower Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Its Live ""v"' i made a mistake in the spelling (i know i make manny )



    Hi fam ...


    just a question.....



    I have been living on myself for 10 years now..
    i have a own place ..
    and i have lived together with my ex for one year....

    i,m 31 now...

    but in a few monds i am going to make a big step ...
    i.m moving out of my country ,

    My parents live far ,and eventualy i want to live near them at least closer than from where i live now..

    i also want to develope some other talent i got from god
    i have worked as a social worker with kids that was my job and that was (is ) nice but i got this BIG BOOM bALLON in my heart and stommic full of creativity that needs to come out and god also wants me to go for it and express it.....


    i am ready for it to go for it to work hard for it..

    but it means that i have to go and live with my mom for a while
    before i got my own place again..



    my question is...
    cause this bothered me a little

    for example..if i meet someone and i tell this person that i live with my mom
    temporary.....
    is this weird...?

    would this say somthing about me..
    i mean i know that i want to have my own place again..
    i like my privacy ,and i am not someone who likes to be depended on people..
    for example the only reason i would move in with someone is that there is no other way or its urgent,,,,
    and the other reason that i would move in with a man that i likeis , after ""just got married" or when we realy know eachother good and we are about to get married




    but ..


    you know..



    but i mean is this weird...
    or there other people here who been trough this ..

    what is youre advise..?

    i am serius..


    i need some advise ..
    most of the things i know but ..
    let me know ..








    Loveauroraflower:heart:
     
  2. cursed heart

    cursed heart Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    i'm not sure how your relationship is with your mom.
    There is nothing like having your own.
    After my dicvorce I went back to college and moved in with my mother after having a crummy apartment,getting my purse snatched and plus I wanted a car!It helped me get where I am now but I had absolutely no privacy! I paid rent and helped out alot but she treated me like a 7yrd old and she was mean as hell. I was working for a temp agency and she would not give me the message when a new asignment was available,I asked her why didn't she take a message for me? she said she aint no dam secretary and then she wanted to fight! She would offer me alcohol when she knew I didn't drink during the week,basically would keep asking me,read my journel,screamed and yelled at my daughter for sill chit! When I was excersising she would interrupt me and taebo aint easy, I did lose 80 pounds though! She would only help me by taking me to the metra sometimes and that was only on payday or one school night !
    It was hard for me to study because of my brothers and sisters constantly going in and out the house with their friends and Neurophysiology is not easy!
    And forget about company! You better home any man you are dealing with has a his own place!
     
  3. Auroraflower

    Auroraflower Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    thanks for responding:heart:...

    i hope the 2 of you are ok now...
    if she is not happy ,tell about god and that he loves her ...






    well my mom has her own life ..
    she works hard...
    i mean i am not worried about how it will go between her and me.:heart: .

    we are growing so well towards eachother..
    its amazing...
    because she grows to strong to god..

    she calls me when i think about her strong...
    i love her..

    and she actualy wants to support me
    and share ....

    what we have been missed ...
    what i missed from her when i was young..






    Loveauroraflower:heart:
     
  4. cursed heart

    cursed heart Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Then go for it!
     
  5. PurpleMoons

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    No, I don't think it's weird Sister. I think a brother would understand that you are moving from a different location, and temporarily staying with relatives until you get situated.

    Good luck on your adventure Sister! I hope it's everything you dreamt it would be.:heart:
     
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