Black Women : Is it still worth having children?

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  1. Glorious Star

    Glorious Star Member MEMBER

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    I have been wondering lately if it is still worth having children in this dying world. I mean there might be a third world war coming up where we will all be part of and the question is, is such a world a good place for chhildren? And what about the discriminatationn the child might suffer on? And did you know that 60 % of all girls has at least 1 experience of sexual abuse or such (rape)? I would like people's opinion on this one....:( :(
     
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    weel, I got that info from statistics at school, and what even more shocking is that every female person in my life has experienced suh a thing. And it variates from rape to beeing kissed or touched without you wanting it it happend, believe me. Maybe statistics said 30 % about 50 years ago when it was still taboo to talk about such things out in the open. But now as you must know things are diffrent both girls, and grown women are coming forward with there experiences. And that is not even all there are worst things in life a newborn child eventually will have to deal with...
     
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    Nfant_De_Milieu Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    This is a cruel world and it is not an easy one. I am all for 2 responsible adults having kids. The problem ascribe from the so called parents who let their children run around out of control. I have a 12 year old cousin who is boy crazy. She is already wearing little skirts, it does not help that her mother (recently divorced) is wearing them too. I brought her a book, Jubilee, to read for her to see the real struggles of a sistah. She willnot read it. She is trying to read the books her mother has like,
    "Maintenance Man", "Addicted", and other explicit books. If you do have kids I hope they grow up to be sucessful. When one more sistah or brotha comes up, we all come up!
     
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    My point is: It isn't 30% I wish it was! But it isn't that is all. Even in the 90s it could have been 30 % unless those statistics whre about a certain group of people.
     
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    it is our purpose in nature to procreate. otherwise life wouldn't go on.

    while i can relate to the issue of sexual abuse and molestation, that doesn't define life. it just one of those ugly things that happens.
     
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    but is it worth having children if you cannot give them what they need?
     
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    How can we fully appreciate the positives without knowing the negatives? Life is beautiful & the young are responsible of change. It's an issue we all can be cautious about, but it isn't new. It's just being focused on in the media.
     
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    Hello Glorius Star and Egyptos ... Welcome

    Hello Everyone

    If you can handle the pain of childbirth and the life long obligation
    everything else is icing on da cake.

    :heart:

    Destee
     
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    yes it's worth it ......i agree with destee
     
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    I think being a parent is wonderful. One must that it is a great responsibility and live up to that responsibility.
     
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