i have quite a few male friends who have told me that their first sexual experience was with a older woman. in a few of these cases, the babysitter was the one who they lost their virginity - the boys being between 8 - 10 and the babysitter in her midteens. one friend lost his virginity to a mother of his childhood friends. he too was preteen. they continued their "affair" until he went off the college and they remain close. it seems none of these men feel that they were taken advantage but more like a favor was done. we have teachers, both male and female, who have been charged with raping students. however it seems that the consequences are not as severe when it's a boy who is being sexual with an older woman. it's almost like a badge of honor. however, when a man is charged it seems that everyone is in a uproar and calling for prosecution. why aren't there the same feelings and consequences when a boy is "raped" by a woman? i say this because i would be very upset, livid, if i found out a woman had had sex with my young son. none of the men i spoke of above, reported these things to their parents. why isn't it rape when a young boy has sex with a older teen or woman? in my state, the age of consent is 16 years of age.