Black Relationships : Is It Cheating

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  1. ShayShay

    ShayShay Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    If you're married or in a relationship with someone,
    Do you consider kissing another person or giving
    or receive oral sex from someone else other than your spouce as cheating?
     
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    monetg Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Yes--any sort of physicality other than a friendly handshake, hug, or kiss on the cheek (I feel) is cheating.
     
  3. A007

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    Anything that betrays the trust of you mate is cheating. If those actions do not betry their trust then no, it is not cheating. It doen't make it right...but it is not cheating for instance (open relationships). It is possible for simple conversation to be cheating if it betrays the trust in the relationship.
     
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    I agree with you both, I also do think it's cheating.

    I was refering to a particular loved one ( not my spouse) who is being tempted to cheat on his wife. I'm like his gaurdian angel and I try my best to keep him out of trouble. He just recently told me that he has actualy gone out and done some of these things with other females that I KNOW his wife would not take. And right now I'm so mad with him I don't even want to talk to him, but I know by not talking to him, he will really just go BUCK WILD!!!

    What should I do or say to him? Should I tell his wife?
     
  5. A007

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    All you can do i point out the fact that he is wrong and try to persuade him to come to his sinces or do the right thing by telling his wife. I don't think you should tell his wife. She may not believe you AND now you become a part of something that you really should be separate from. Just my opinion.
     
  6. monetg

    monetg Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    ShayShay,

    Sis, school him about the consequences of his actions-how's he's risking his marriage, disrespecting his vows and betraying his wife's trust by indulging in this behavior.
    Hopefully, he's taking the appropriate precautions so he's not risking his and his wife's health as well.
     
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    NNQueen going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    ShayShay, if its behavior that a person wouldn't do in front of their spouse/life partner...then...

    And I agree with Dre' and monetg...
     
  8. A007

    A007 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Very good definition Queen.... I am going to use that.
     
  9. bigned69

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    yes it is cheating. you know how the saying goes..what goes on in the dark eventuallyh comes to the light. No, dont tell the wife, because she will take her mans side regardless and you will lose a friend.
     
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    u know that's right . let her find out on her own. she might know anyway , and is tryna ignore it.
     
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