Black Relationships : Is he hiding something?

Hello Brothers and Sisters,

Need some advice or opinions!

I have been working at this job for about four months-graveyard, well I started showing interest in one of my co workers (graveyard)..and he seemed to have no objections. It started with texting, then to him asking for x rated pictures, to him eventually coming over once a week and us having sexual relations. What I need help with is this: he has never invited me to his home, he always comes over on one of the nights that I am off (we get two nights a week off, and i have tuesday and wednesday off- so i see him on tuesday night or wednesday night-and he works on those nights) and on those nights he always shows up in his work clothes but never went or goes to work, he always calls off on the night he sees me BUT-its like he gets dressed for work and comes over to my house. Sometimes he comes over for a couple of hours, or he may spend the night making sure to not spend the entire day but leaving in the am before 9. We talk about some things, I know he has children, and that he is what he says "focused" (not really knowing what exactly that means, I take it as focused on life, etc) so to ME its not just sex because I feel that he shares a lil bit of him but all in all I am starting to get feelings for him. He calls me babe, baby, etc and that makes me feel ecstatic. But is he hiding something???? What do you guys and gals think??

the fact that he came dressed for work without actually going is a big epiphany that he is trying to make someone believe that's where he's going...you didn't catch onto that? And if a guy just wants to jump into xxx rated things with you red flag...kinda makes you wonder where he's been laying if you know what I mean.
 
Hey I've heard about you! Lol

I am still at my job and he is not. I tried to take heed to what the board advised but he keeps coming for more. What's odd is that now he breaks nights where he has stood me up, called last minute to say he can't make it. We still see each other about once a week but now it'slike Once every two weeks. He still calls me everyday and we talk. A couple of weeks ago he randomly mentioned " he wasn't my man" but asked for my support in his job transfer. Totally confused! What's that about??

You have become nothing more than a booty call to him. Find someone that likes and respects you dear
 
Hey I've heard about you! Lol

I am still at my job and he is not. I tried to take heed to what the board advised but he keeps coming for more. What's odd is that now he breaks nights where he has stood me up, called last minute to say he can't make it. We still see each other about once a week but now it'slike Once every two weeks. He still calls me everyday and we talk. A couple of weeks ago he randomly mentioned " he wasn't my man" but asked for my support in his job transfer. Totally confused! What's that about??

i would not even speak to him, when you're alone its kinda hard to let go of someone when you know they're no good for you because some people just want to have attention even if it is not good for them. you have to evaluate your worth, does he deserve you? do you deserve better, all this guessing all the things not communicated...read between the lines, i've read he's not serious and in the long run over time you will just be more hurt when he steps out on you for good..its not bad to be alone and wait for the best because when it comes he'll make you forget about all the lonely times (smile)
 
the fact that he came dressed for work without actually going is a big epiphany that he is trying to make someone believe that's where he's going...you didn't catch onto that? And if a guy just wants to jump into xxx rated things with you red flag...kinda makes you wonder where he's been laying if you know what I mean.


I thought it was extremely weird but his explanation was always " I rather be here with you so I'm not going to work"
 

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