I'll admitt that I was wrong when I decided to go through my boyfriends phone because I suspected him of cheating. I called back one of the numbers that I noticed he called before he called me and sure it enough it was a girl he was messing around with. Right after I got off the phone with her she called him and told him about the conversation. I was done with him and didn't want to talk to him for a while but he insisted on calling my phone repeatedly until I answered and he was very upset. He wasn't upset that he had got caught cheating, he was upset because he felt I had invaded his privacy and was disrespectful. I began to feel quilty especially when he started to cry and told me about all the other difficulties in his life and how I was only adding to that. I apologized and admitted that I was wrong. He then told me that I was delusional and the only way to show him that I was sorry would be to call the girl and tell her that I was sorry for calling her and for lying to her, but I hadn't lied about anything. Him and I were in a relationship and he was pursuing her. He wanted me to apologize while he was on the phone and I refused because although I shouldn't have called her I was not about to apologize for it. So what was his point? Once he realized that I wasn't going to do it, he told me to have a nice life and our conversation ended. I didn't want the relationship to end, I wanted us to work out whatever problems we were having which were obviously trust, but I realize the was being manipulative in a way and shifting the blame on me because he had gotten caught. Was he being manipulative and what should I do??