Do you Stay / Do you Leave
Written By: Tia Williams (Duncan) 01/14/04
I just heard someone say…
That they are not happy in their relationship
To admit there is a problem is part one to the solution…
Part two is the decision.
To know that you are not happy is to determine what will make you happy.
Stop and think…is there anything that your mate can do to make you happy…
Be honest with yourself…no one has to know the answer (right now).
Do you really want this person to make you happy???
Are you still in Love with your mate…or are you in love with the fact that you are in a relationship?
Are you staying in the relationship for the sake of the relationship, or because you truly Love your mate?
Are you so set on making the relationship work, that you have forsaken your own personal needs?
When you close your eyes and envision your mate touching you, making Love to you, does it excite you, or does it turn your stomach?
Do you still get the warm feeling you use to get when your mate enters the room?
Are you frustrated that your mate is no longer interested in you, or is it the other way around?
Are you in it for the kids, and is this the example of a loving family you want to set before your kids?
If you are unhappy in your relationship, and your mate no longer makes you happy, do you stay, do you leave?
The answer is simply yes…
Yes you stay if you are willing to accept the fact that you will be unhappy, and began to live accordingly…You can no longer hold your mate responsible for your unhappiness, if you decide to stay!
Yes you leave, if you choose happiness over the mechanics of a relationship, and holding your mate responsible will no longer be an issue, because it is now up to you to find your happiness!
So, when is your mate responsible?
Your mate is responsible if and only if they have lied, then they are responsible for misleading…
The decision to stay or leave is up to you…you have to be responsible for your own actions and decisions…
To make your mate suffer, or feel guilty because of a failed relationship is childish.
You will only harbor anger, and bitterness, and the need for revenge when you decide that you don’t want to take responsibility for your own actions, or you are not willing to accept the fact that your mate no longer want to be a part of your life.
If it don’t fit, don’t force it.
If it don’t fit, fix it.
Decide and live your life accordingly!
If you should happen to read this,
I pray that peace will find its way into your heart, soul and mind, so that all decisions are made prayerfully and peacefully.
Tia