Black Relationships : Is arguing a natural part of every relationship?

Is arguing a natural part of every relationship?

  • Yes

    Votes: 6 46.2%
  • No

    Votes: 7 53.8%

  • Total voters
    13
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Liberty

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The 8 Commandments of Fighting Fairly

Quarreling with your partner doesn’t have to wreck the relationship—in fact, it can actually help. Just follow these expert ground rules

Whether you’ve been in a relationship for a few months, a few years, or a few decades, you’re bound to fight with your partner at some point. But what constitutes “fighting” is different for every couple: Some only admit to having disagreements; others say they occasionally bicker; some seethe in silence, while others don’t believe they’ve had a real fight until someone yells. “There are negative and unhealthy ways to fight, but disagreeing is not unhealthy,” says Laurie Mintz, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Florida and author of
Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex. Since you’re going to squabble, try these eight ways to stay in fighting form without going down for the count.

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http://www.realsimple.com/work-life/family/relationships/how-to-fight-fairly
 

Djedefre

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Appreciating what you've said, if I understand you correctly, you believe that only idiots argue? Interesting...
Not necessarily. But the people I surround myself with would not yell and throw pots and pans at each other. They'd discuss, if they were pissed off they'd walk away.
 

Angela22

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Disagreement is natural, but it doesn't have to escalate into arguments, which is usually heated and very angry discussion.

There are actually people who just aren't confrontational and it would take a lot to get them to "argue" anything. That doesn't mean they are bottling up emotions or holding back their thoughts. They've either just grown to expressing what they want to say in a non-combative manner or have always just been really chill. That's perfectly normal.

So no, arguing doesn't have to be apart of a healthy relationship. What other people or even most people do in their relationship doesn't have to be for all.

I'd be wary of any guy who wants to argue to keep the relationship "healthy".

While I, myself, can handle it if it comes down to that, I'm definitely not looking for an argument with my significant other, because why would I? The world is going to give us enough stress, we don't have to add to it.
 

Bootzey

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Precise and I don't argue viciously. We have debates and disagreements, but they never come to true out and out fights. If one of us gets mad at the other... we just stop speaking to each other, until we are ready to move passed whatever it is.
 

IFE

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Agreeing to to disagree doesn’t work in a relationship/marriage.
For friends and associates, maybe.

Relationships depend on coming to an agreement considering each parties views, IMO. Marriage is teamwork makes the dream work:)

We never argued much. After 30 years, we don’t argue at all. We know each other thoughts.
 

Symbol of America

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People argue in a relationship and we need to learn to agree to disagree
Very astute post. Best comment addressing arguing a/k/a domestic conflict so far. Arguing by it's mere existence, nature and practice is a failed concept and a weak excuse for grossly incompatible relationships no matter how anybody in a failed relationship sugar coats this initial stage of intimidation, control and dominance. In all my days I've seen very few arguments not eventually escalate either within seconds to decades of conflict, aggression and at times marital discord, divorce and even murder and murder/suicide. Worse when partners have children who they care so little about that they expose them to destabilizing and traumatic behavior that arguing leads to. A large majority of children run away from home to escape incompetent parents who literally destroy a child's comfort and sense of well being in such a toxic home which eventually just becomes a house to the children.

www.dictionary.com/browse/arguing

https://www.psychologytoday.com/test/relationships/arguing-style-test

https://www.glamour.com/story/how-much-fighting-is-too-much-in-a-relationship

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2017/07/homicides-women/534306/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Argument

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Domestic_violence

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crime_of_passion

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mariticide

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Uxoricide

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Familicide

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Bottom line: Individuals have tempers, harbor latent hostile intent, jealous streaks, drink alcoholic beverages excessively, abuse legal drugs or use illegal drugs, suffer from externally influenced or internally induced low or nonexistent esteem, mental or emotional stability issues should never marry or have children.
 

sargam

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personally the best way to bring to a conclusion is to sort out the issue between the sheets.
 

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