Black Relationships : Is arguing a natural part of every relationship?

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Is arguing a natural part of every relationship?

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  1. Liberty

    Liberty Banned MEMBER

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    Can you genuinely remove arguing from a relationship or do you believe arguing is a natural part of a healthy relationship? What happens if you find arguing detrimental but your partner finds it natural? What’s the difference between an argument and a debate?

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  2. Liberty

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    "Arguing" can be a constructive form of communication, or a destructive form of communication. It depends on how it is done.

    Likewise, "stuffing" your feelings can really do damage to a relationship.

    A couple needs to find a way to communicate things they don't like, things they'd like to see change, etc., without name calling, disrespect, etc. If they don't, bad feelings will fester, accumulate, and explode, unnecessarily.

    So, with all that said, yes, arguing is a natural part of every relationship. JMO
     
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    i wouldn't know... :angel1:
     
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    Liberty Banned MEMBER

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    LOL... Me either. That's why I want you guys' opinions.
     
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    I'd imagine so, wouldn't know my self though, I avoid idiots, arguments with smart people usually just end in both people walking away.
     
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    Hi Liberty,

    I think it's okay and even normal to argue. It could be considered a discussion in many cases.

    If it rises to physical altercations or some like negative space, there may be cause for concern.

    Otherwise you should be good ... :argue:

    Here are some definitions I found to support my "argument" ... :)


    Definitions of argue:

    verb: present reasons and arguments

    verb: give evidence of

    Example: "The evidence argues for your claim"

    verb: have an argument about something


    Definitions of argument:

    noun: a variable in a logical or mathematical expression whose value determines the dependent variable; if f(x)=y, x is the independent variable

    noun: a summary of the subject or plot of a literary work or play or movie

    Example: "The editor added the argument to the poem"

    noun: a fact or assertion offered as evidence that something is true

    Example: "It was a strong argument that his hypothesis was true"

    noun: a discussion in which reasons are advanced for and against some proposition or proposal

    Example: "The argument over foreign aid goes on and on"

    noun: a contentious speech act; a dispute where there is strong disagreement

    Example: "They were involved in a violent argument"

    So to answer your question ... Is arguing a natural part of every relationship? ... i'd say yes, unless you are in a relationship with a clone of yourself that thinks exactly like you do and never challenges your thinking ... :wink:

    In fact, i argue with my own self sometimes, should i go left or should i go right ... back and forth in my mind ... presenting the evidence for what i believe will be the best decision for me to make ... so even cloning your own self and being in a relationship with that clone ... may not guarantee it is argument free.

    Love You!

    :heart:

    Destee
     
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    Arguments in the relationship isn't bad I'd say, you won't agree all the time, so naturally disagreements will arise, as long as you both keep respect at the forefront yall good, and even if you decide to break up it should end on a good note, but never walk away from someone whose worthy of your affection because of conflicting views, or whatever the argument maybe, now if he, or she is a problem they gotta kick rocks, life should be filled with laughter not sorrow
     
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    The term "argue" seems to have bad connotations, when it doesn't have to.

    In my family I have observed two couples.

    Couple #1: They never argue. Always on the same page, polite, lovey-dovey, etc.

    Couple #2: Always arguing. And, not just privately. They argue in front of the whole family. To the point of making everyone in the family feel uncomfortable.


    Over the years, who would have thought that couple #1 would have divorced, and couple #2 would still be married?

    I have contemplated this and come to believe that couple #2 was actually communicating more than couple #1, even though it made everyone else feel uneasy. At the end of the day...they were, and still are, happily married. And, I don't know what went wrong for couple #1, but I am surprised that they didn't make it, because they seemed happy.

    Thanks for posting, Destee.

    Love You Back!
     
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    Appreciating what you've said, if I understand you correctly, you believe that only idiots argue? Interesting...
     
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    Great post! The magic word is RESPECT
     
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