Black Relationships : Is arguing a natural part of every relationship?

Is arguing a natural part of every relationship?

  • Yes

    Votes: 6 46.2%
  • No

    Votes: 7 53.8%

  • Total voters
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Liberty

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"Arguing" can be a constructive form of communication, or a destructive form of communication. It depends on how it is done.

Likewise, "stuffing" your feelings can really do damage to a relationship.

A couple needs to find a way to communicate things they don't like, things they'd like to see change, etc., without name calling, disrespect, etc. If they don't, bad feelings will fester, accumulate, and explode, unnecessarily.

So, with all that said, yes, arguing is a natural part of every relationship. JMO
 

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Hi Liberty,

I think it's okay and even normal to argue. It could be considered a discussion in many cases.

If it rises to physical altercations or some like negative space, there may be cause for concern.

Otherwise you should be good ... :argue:

Here are some definitions I found to support my "argument" ... :)


Definitions of argue:

verb: present reasons and arguments

verb: give evidence of

Example: "The evidence argues for your claim"

verb: have an argument about something


Definitions of argument:

noun: a variable in a logical or mathematical expression whose value determines the dependent variable; if f(x)=y, x is the independent variable

noun: a summary of the subject or plot of a literary work or play or movie

Example: "The editor added the argument to the poem"

noun: a fact or assertion offered as evidence that something is true

Example: "It was a strong argument that his hypothesis was true"

noun: a discussion in which reasons are advanced for and against some proposition or proposal

Example: "The argument over foreign aid goes on and on"

noun: a contentious speech act; a dispute where there is strong disagreement

Example: "They were involved in a violent argument"

So to answer your question ... Is arguing a natural part of every relationship? ... i'd say yes, unless you are in a relationship with a clone of yourself that thinks exactly like you do and never challenges your thinking ... :wink:

In fact, i argue with my own self sometimes, should i go left or should i go right ... back and forth in my mind ... presenting the evidence for what i believe will be the best decision for me to make ... so even cloning your own self and being in a relationship with that clone ... may not guarantee it is argument free.

Love You!

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Destee
 

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Arguments in the relationship isn't bad I'd say, you won't agree all the time, so naturally disagreements will arise, as long as you both keep respect at the forefront yall good, and even if you decide to break up it should end on a good note, but never walk away from someone whose worthy of your affection because of conflicting views, or whatever the argument maybe, now if he, or she is a problem they gotta kick rocks, life should be filled with laughter not sorrow
 

Liberty

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Hi Liberty,

I think it's okay and even normal to argue. It could be considered a discussion in many cases.

If it rises to physical altercations or some like negative space, there may be cause for concern.

Otherwise you should be good ... :argue:

Here are some definitions I found to support my "argument" ... :)


Definitions of argue:

verb: present reasons and arguments

verb: give evidence of

Example: "The evidence argues for your claim"

verb: have an argument about something


Definitions of argument:

noun: a variable in a logical or mathematical expression whose value determines the dependent variable; if f(x)=y, x is the independent variable

noun: a summary of the subject or plot of a literary work or play or movie

Example: "The editor added the argument to the poem"

noun: a fact or assertion offered as evidence that something is true

Example: "It was a strong argument that his hypothesis was true"

noun: a discussion in which reasons are advanced for and against some proposition or proposal

Example: "The argument over foreign aid goes on and on"

noun: a contentious speech act; a dispute where there is strong disagreement

Example: "They were involved in a violent argument"

So to answer your question ... Is arguing a natural part of every relationship? ... i'd say yes, unless you are in a relationship with a clone of yourself that thinks exactly like you do and never challenges your thinking ... :wink:

In fact, i argue with my own self sometimes, should i go left or should i go right ... back and forth in my mind ... presenting the evidence for what i believe will be the best decision for me to make ... so even cloning your own self and being in a relationship with that clone ... may not guarantee it is argument free.

Love You!

:heart:

Destee
The term "argue" seems to have bad connotations, when it doesn't have to.

In my family I have observed two couples.

Couple #1: They never argue. Always on the same page, polite, lovey-dovey, etc.

Couple #2: Always arguing. And, not just privately. They argue in front of the whole family. To the point of making everyone in the family feel uncomfortable.


Over the years, who would have thought that couple #1 would have divorced, and couple #2 would still be married?

I have contemplated this and come to believe that couple #2 was actually communicating more than couple #1, even though it made everyone else feel uneasy. At the end of the day...they were, and still are, happily married. And, I don't know what went wrong for couple #1, but I am surprised that they didn't make it, because they seemed happy.

Thanks for posting, Destee.

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Liberty

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I'd imagine so, wouldn't know my self though, I avoid idiots, arguments with smart people usually just end in both people walking away.
Appreciating what you've said, if I understand you correctly, you believe that only idiots argue? Interesting...
 

Liberty

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Arguments in the relationship isn't bad I'd say, you won't agree all the time, so naturally disagreements will arise, as long as you both keep respect at the forefront yall good, and even if you decide to break up it should end on a good note, but never walk away from someone whose worthy of your affection because of conflicting views, or whatever the argument maybe, now if he, or she is a problem they gotta kick rocks, life should be filled with laughter not sorrow
Great post! The magic word is RESPECT
 

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