Black Relationships : Intimacy

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  1. Nisa

    Nisa Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    How are you intimate with your significant other without having sexual contact? Do you think intimacy is a lost art? Do you think people think that the only way to be intimate is through sexual contact?
     
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    i think sex is overrated in that regard.
    sex may be one form of intimacy but it is not even the most important.

    these forums are full of laments from people who have plenty of sex and even marriage with people and find they don't know that person very well.
    for me it's all about knowing and liking what you know.

    it's about communicating and sharing.

    being able to talk and be heard and understood.
    i've had sex with people who i never talked with and talked with people who i never had sex with.

    the intimate thing is to hear and be heard.
     
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    Intimate,
    mann.. i uesd to think that only meant sex... till i met a man that showed me that.. simple acts like, bathing eachother, and washing eachothers hair in the shower.. lotioning eachothers body, or... him oiling my scalp.. has become some of the most intimate moments outside of the normal cuddling, and hugging..kissing..and sexual moments. I dont think its a lost art, i jsut think there needs to be more of it... we recently started trying tantra.. which is beyond my wildest.. in intimacy... it forces you to connect and surrender. I think when people say intimate.. nowadays they are refering to sex.. i guess, we are coming to a point where the only intimate moments are acheived thru sex.. luckly there will still be women like you and I Nisa to preserve it.. :grouphug:
     
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    Hmm I like both of the responses :) :)
     
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    YEA,I CAN DOG THAT OILING AND LOTIONING PART!SERIOUSLY!


    :yo:
     
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    Gimme a foot rub :)
     
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    can you be intimate over the internet?
     
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    Intimacy means close association by definition, so technically if you loved your mother and father you are intimate with them.

    Intimacy has been degraded to the level of sexuality, which in my opinion is just false. I do not need to be in a womans guts to be close to her.

    Just my Opinion
     
  9. Nisa

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    In her guts? wow.. :pie:..maybe you can say i dont need to have sexual intercourse with a woman to be close to her..but guts... :uhoh:
     
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    Hi Nisa!

    I like communication, it’s extremely important. I like my lover to be extremely smart...Actually I like mental sex. Exploring each other in this way, I love that. While I couldn't ignore real/good sex but I know I need a reflective lover. I give plenty of sex to my partner when he teach me, when he delight me. So many people date or marry insensitive, boring and secretive people; it brings so much unhappiness, in sex and romance!
     
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