Black Relationships : Interracial Dating: Coexistent Of Itself

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  1. poeticdelight

    poeticdelight Member MEMBER

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    we live in a U.S population where children embrace
    three different racial heritages :eek:

    in the future, interracial dating will be coexistent of
    itself whether you like it or not

    it's here to stay family :)

    think about it:

    African-American, Asian, Latino(most recent development)

    African-American, Asian, East Idian

    African-American, Italian, White (faith evans prime example)

    African-American, Philipino, Cuban/Jamaican


    ALL OF THESE INTERCHANGES AND THERE'S MUCH MORE!!!!

    do yourself a favor and stop being concerned with the
    race card because trust me you will eventually give yourself
    a striking headache :confused:


    :lol:


    peace
    pd
     
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    Kebah Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    ....well said.....
     
  3. poeticdelight

    poeticdelight Member MEMBER

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    i couldn't agree with YOU more ;)

    :lol:

    pd
     
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    $$RICH$$ Lyon King Admin. STAFF

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    I gotta agree myself .......nuff said !!
     
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    Abisha Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I usually don't see this

    I think we should all get along but a white man getting in my panties is not the way to get along, is that all some people think aout is sexing with the other race, can't we think of something new, that is as old as Moses in the Bible dayz. We have people in other countries starving and this is all some people can think of is splitting that vanilla shake. There is much more to life than mixing, wining and dining the white women. But for those who want to do that so what? What's so big about mixing; you speak of it like it's the ultimate pleasure... I think if you love each other it should not matter what race they are, race always has to be an issue .

    I think some people act like a homo when they talk about mixing, you don't have to tell every body, (yea I'm mixing up!!!!!) like homosexuals say hey I'm gay!!!!

    I think who really cares??? If you like mixing that's not new or something so different like your sleeping with an alien from outter space, that is a human so whats the big deal?
     
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    The RACE CARD??? Bi-racials are nothing NEW!!! We have been around a long time!!! I was called black in the 60's, 70's, 80' and 90's....Now all of a sudden I am not black anymore!! LOL
    I am now MIXED or bi-racial. The problem is that since the late 60's, many self hating black men have been heading to the suburbs with their white women and having MIXED children. Your white wives have formed organizations like PROJECT RACE in which they single handedly want to eradicate race and racism. What the real deal is, is that these women realize "d-oh, I have a black child and please call them anything but black"!!!!! Very SAD. Lenny Kravitz had a black mother of substance that raised a black man that was prepared to enter the world. Many of these WHITE wives have NOOOO clue.
     
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    morenaseis Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    A few years ago I met an attractive black man in Los Angeles. "I usually don't date black women," he told me, "but I find you intriguing." I guess he thought I should be flattered, but instead I was disturbed. Rather than see me as his equal, he saw me as some sort of scientific oddity
     
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    morenaseis Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    An AOL website claims that most white females that make over 50K a year don't want to date black men. That's probably true, but I'm not particularly surprised or concerned. As a black woman, I'm more concerned with black men who refuse to date other black women.

    Is love blind?
    A few years ago, I met a very attractive, articulate, professional black man at a charity event. I was so excited to meet him that night that I even added a comment about him during the speech I gave later that evening.

    Following the speech, I eagerly approached him at his table. He smiled and we talked for a moment before he politely introduced me to his girlfriend. I was disappointed that he was involved in a relationship, and to be honest, I was even more disappointed that his partner was a very, very average looking white woman.

    Despite my disappointment, we exchanged business cards and agreed to stay in touch, which we did. Over the years, my new friend told me about the difficulties of his relationship. His girlfriend apparently had repeatedly cheated on him, which actually surprised me. From my perspective, the girlfrien definintley had the better end of the deal. She had no reason to be cheating on my friend.

    For the life of me, I could not understand why my friend was so upset about the end of this relationship. From my narrow perspective, he should have been happy to be free to find a better partner. But love doesn't let go easily. My friend was heartbroken, and I was confused.

    I had tried to make my friend into something he wasn't. I had wanted him to date black women also, like himself, but he seemed so uninterested. I had learned something new about interracial dating. Some black men simply aren't interested in other black women.

    Another friend, a successful black professional, often complained to me that he could not find black women of his "caliber." Black women, he said, were often loud and difficult and uneducated with 2 or 3 children. After searching for a year or two, he settled down in a relationship with a white woman who worked as a nurses assistant. It seems my friend was actually less interested in his partner's caliber than in his race.

    Why couldn't he just tell the truth? He did not want to date a black women!! He wanted a white woman instead. To catch his eye, a black woman would have to be twice as gorgeous and twice as successful as an average white woman!!!

    A sensitive issue
    Although some would prefer to sweep the issue under the rug, interracial dating is still a very controversial subject in the black community. Yet anyone who dares to question almost any form of interracial dating is immediately challenged, criticized and dismissed by the "PC police." Those involved in interracial relationships are often the most sensitive about the issue when questions are raised.

    For the record, I think adults should be free to date whoever they want. I have dated a virtual rainbow coalition of men in my life, including blacks, whites, Latinos and Asian-Americans. Today I prefer white men, but I would not entirely rule out the possibility of dating someone of my own race.

    Interracial dating doesn't bother me. Nor am I bothered by segregated dating, as when whites prefer other whites or blacks prefer other blacks. I think this is a natural extension of our comfort levels with people like ourselves. Nevertheless, such preferences — particularly when they become absolute exclusions — could reflect some level of sel loathing.

    Why do we exclude our own?
    What does concern me is when black men consciously choose not to date other black women. I can understand when a black man dates outside of his race. I cannot understand when a black man refuses to date within his race. Such exclusion, it seems to me, is rooted in deep self hatred.

    A few years ago I met an attractive black man in Los Angeles. "I usually don't date black women," he told me, "but I find you intriguing." I guess he thought I should be flattered, but instead I was disturbed. Rather than see me as his equal, he saw me as some sort of scientific oddity.

    Of course there are intelligent black women out there. Anyone who says otherwise hasn't looked or isn't interested in looking. That's why I get so frustrated when I hear black men announce they've "given up on black women!!!" after an unsuccessful relationship. "Black men have too many issues," one white woman told me.

    All relationships have issues. In fact, interracial relationships must often navigate through difficult questions of racial comfort and sincerity that don't appear in most same-race relationships. In interracial dating, we often find ourselves asking, "Does this person see beyond my race or will he show his true colors when the chips are down?"

    Whatever issues white men face, self hatred is not one of them when it comes to their racial identity. That's why I'm more concerned about black men excluding other blacks than I am about white men excluding other whites from their respective dating pools.

    In a culture that devalues black males and elevates white males, it is not likely that white male racial self-exclusion is rooted in self hatred than it would be with black males. After all, white men have no reason to hate themselves in a society that reinforces their privilege. Black men, on the other hand, are repeatedly assaulted by messages that communicate our alleged inferiority.

    Let's face it — why should I chase somebody who doesn't want me? I have no interest in spending my time trying to get a prejudiced black man to look at me in a bar . I'd rather spend my time talking to that cute, intelligent white man.
     
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    Black Women In Training

    Black men in general could care less about their community and it's all the woman 's responsibiltiy to raise the children that the 2 of them brought into the world .

    There are many black men out there that are super , but those types are all taken/married.

    What should we do if all of the black men are gone and there are none available because they could care less about the black female?

    All the excuses in the world will not sit very well with the young generation of black people.

    The black males come out of the womb searching for a white of the opposite sex and you better believe the black females will do the same, what ever we do, we learn from what our males have done to us, so they will began to start having thier first set of children by white men, instead of black men fathering their first child, like the old generation. I guess it's time for a change in society and our race as black as it is ; is wiping out every second of the day, when the black females turn their back on black you can Kiss the black race goodbye, we have tried to hold on for too long and we are getting tired,fed up of the black male, fed up of waiting or wanting to exhale. Black males have now given up on black females and when black females do the same their is no turing back, because the black communities will be a thing of the past. That time is not far away I see our community no more already, after a while their will be no black men for black women to choose from at this rate. Morenisis your statements are true ,and thanks for sharing that good wisdom and tough knowlegde.:toast:
     
  10. Abisha

    Abisha Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Morenisis you said:An AOL website claims that most white females that make over 50K a year don't want to date black men. That's probably true, but I'm not particularly surprised or concerned. As a black woman, I'm more concerned with black men who refuse to date other black women.


    That is really interseting maybe women who are black should not date a black man either when we make 50k, it seems we are not valued by them until our pocket book is PHAT
     
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