Black Relationships : Interracial Dating - Black/Latino

Discussion in 'Black Relationships' started by TainaMacu, Feb 19, 2005.

Thread Status:
Not open for further replies.
  1. TainaMacu

    TainaMacu Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Jan 23, 2005
    Messages:
    5
    Likes Received:
    0
    Ratings:
    +0
    I like to know and have understanding from my fellow Brothers and Sisters why is there such resentment regarding interracial dating between Black men (women) and Latino women (men)?
     
  2. SwtT

    SwtT Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Apr 8, 2003
    Messages:
    2,752
    Likes Received:
    28
    Gender:
    Female
    Occupation:
    Educational/Human Resources field
    Location:
    Chicago, IL
    Ratings:
    +28
    Personally, I have no issues with it. To each his own
     
  3. Destee

    Destee destee.com STAFF

    Country:
    United States
    Joined:
    Jan 22, 2001
    Messages:
    34,804
    Likes Received:
    8,986
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    betwixt and between
    Ratings:
    +9,688
    Sister TainaMacu ... where do you see the resentment? I mean, is it on the side of the Latina or the Black folk?

    I don't personally have any experience with this resentment, but on the surface, i can imagine that it is Black men that are choosing Latina women and it is the resentment of the Black women that you are speaking about. Am i right?

    I've not experienced this up close and personal. I don't know any Black men that have chosen Latina women, but as a Black woman ... it doesn't really matter who the "other" woman is ... the pain / hurt / resentment comes from the fact that far too many Black men choose other than their own.

    That is a very hurting thing Sister. We give birth to Black men.

    I think the resentment you may see, is a direct result of the heartache associated with having to witness this. Many of us take it quite personal, internalize it, and don't really know how to deal with it.

    I don't think Sisters hate all Latinas, or White women, or any kind of woman. Our pain is probably more with the Brothers, than it is with the women. But how much can we hate him? What good will this really do us, to hate him, be angry with him ... while we continue to give birth to him? it is not an easy choice to make, who to lash out at for this ... some of us even lash out at ourselves ... buying into the idea that we are worthy of nothing, and therefore devaluing ourselves on a daily basis, by the choices we make. This resentment manifests itself in so many ways ... probaby too many to count.

    Sister TainuMacu ... if i'm correct regarding your observation of the resentment ... tell me, would you have some resentment if Latina Brothers chose other women over you and yours, time and time again? If there were far too many Latina children growing up without their Latina Fathers ... if Latina women were forced to raise Families alone because of decisions made by Latina men, to be with other women ... would there be something similar to resentment in you?

    Again, i don't believe Sisters hate / resent Latinas ... we are not "The Angry Black Woman" they portray us as ... i just think we've not ever had a real opportunity to come together and reason together, on how best to internalize this devastation ... how to process and manage it ... and as a result, it comes out in many different ways ... one that may appear to some, as though we resent Latinas.

    Does this help you to better understand what you may be witnessing?

    Another great topic Sister. Thank You.

    :heart:

    Destee
     
  4. panafrica

    panafrica Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Aug 24, 2002
    Messages:
    10,227
    Likes Received:
    191
    Location:
    The Diaspora
    Ratings:
    +194
    Somehow I missed this topic. I might be wrong, but I don't feel there is a lot of resentment directed at interracial dating between Blacks & Latinos. Certainly the resentment at such unions would pale in comparision between inter-racial dating between Blacks & Whites. There is not a history of racism & oppression between Black communites and Latino communities. In fact Blacks & Latino share many cultural similarities: as stated in other threads, many Latinos are of African origin or have African ancestory. Perhaps sister TainaMacu has witnessed patterns that I have not, but personally I do not see a problem.
     
  5. kente417mojo

    kente417mojo Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Jan 22, 2004
    Messages:
    3,756
    Likes Received:
    34
    Gender:
    Male
    Ratings:
    +34
    In my experiences, I have seen more resentment towards black men by Latin men than anything. That was like one incident though. As a whole, I don't think either has a problem with it. I sure don't and I don't know anyone that does.
     
  6. Sekhemu

    Sekhemu Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Jul 9, 2003
    Messages:
    6,489
    Likes Received:
    1,061
    Gender:
    Male
    Occupation:
    priest
    Location:
    new jersey
    Ratings:
    +1,064

    Black and Latino(a) dating is not neccesarily inter-racial. However I do agree with Kente. I've had latina girlfriends and many latino men have BIG problems with that this very day. It's not as bad as it used to be, but I've seen more latino men having problems with black dating latina women.
     
  7. kente417mojo

    kente417mojo Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Jan 22, 2004
    Messages:
    3,756
    Likes Received:
    34
    Gender:
    Male
    Ratings:
    +34
    Yeah, man I always wonder why that is? Is it because of that old saying "Once you go black.......". I guess that's pretty accurate. I think men of different ethnicities are scared because they know that those women are gone for good. :lol:
     
  8. panafrica

    panafrica Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Aug 24, 2002
    Messages:
    10,227
    Likes Received:
    191
    Location:
    The Diaspora
    Ratings:
    +194
    Now that you mention this, I have heard that Latino men object to Black men dating Latinas (although they have no problems dating black women). I think the same can be said for most men in regards to the women of their race dating outside of it. I guess it is the nature of a man to think that while “his” women belong to him, he can date whoever he pleases.
     
  9. Sekhemu

    Sekhemu Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Jul 9, 2003
    Messages:
    6,489
    Likes Received:
    1,061
    Gender:
    Male
    Occupation:
    priest
    Location:
    new jersey
    Ratings:
    +1,064
    Good one Kente lol, and I hear ya' Pan, but I think the difference with black men is that, you never hear of a latino guy getting shot at or jumped because he's going out with a black woman, but the opposite is true. Especially in Washington Heights NY
     
  10. panafrica

    panafrica Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Aug 24, 2002
    Messages:
    10,227
    Likes Received:
    191
    Location:
    The Diaspora
    Ratings:
    +194
    Absolutely brother Sekhemu, but my ultimate point is that maybe we should be more protective of our women than we currently are.
     
Loading...
Thread Status:
Not open for further replies.