Black Relationships : Infidelity

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  1. MsInterpret

    MsInterpret Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    This topic has nothing to do with me. I was just curious as to how people really felt about infidelity.

    Now I know some of you all are married and some aren't so this could go either way.

    If you met someone and they were still married, but unhappy in their marriage and the both of you were interested in one another, or attracted would you:

    A) Pursue that person even though they were still married? Because hey they aren't happy in the relationship and the marriage isn't going to last anyways

    B) Or leave it alone?

    And if you are married or thinking about it, if your partner was to cheat on you would it:

    A) End the marriage for you?

    B) Stay with them and work it out?
     
  2. Proverbs31Woman

    Proverbs31Woman Be kinder than necessary! MEMBER

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    Unhappy or not, marriage is a covenant, so I would have to leave it alone with the belief that if it's meant to be, it will happen in proper timing.

    Having been there before, I find it insulting for a woman or a man to try to start something with someone else's spouse when they aren't finished with what they're involved in..their marriage, until it's over legally and emotionally..they are playing on two people, bottom line, and the new he or she will be a rebound relationship. I thank God I've been delivered!! The morale of the story is to be PATIENT ;-)
     
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    you need to find out how to set up that poll thing.......
     
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    leave em alone.

    married is married, regardless of how one feels it to be going right now. "separation" don't cut no slack neither.

    besides, couldn't/wouldn't/won't be "interested" in someone that would so violate the sanctity of their marriage vows/contract: how "loyal" would they be in any new thing? also, what does this suggest about their integrity, honor, respect, self-respect?

    cheating: i would be sort of tempted to try to understand what "drove them to cheat". of course, this after working my mind around realizing that i must not have been as clear in my mind about this lady after all. but "only sort of tempted"; it's a show stopper for me.
     
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    How does one know that the person is unhappy in their marriage?

    Sometimes people lie about being unhappy in their marriage just so that they can have an affair.
     
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    I know, right.

    I am not into morality, so i don't care about the right or wrong of this issue from a religious perspective. just ethics. personal ethics. would you want someone layin up in your wife, even if you didn't love her anymore but were still married? if you wouldn't like that, then don't do it to someone else. it's that simple.
     
  7. MsInterpret

    MsInterpret Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Stop over analyzing the question

    For Example it could be a friend (the one who may or may not have the affair) of the married couple who may know that there is issues in the between them...
     
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    MsInterpret Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    LOL I know!!!

    Haven't quite gotten there yet
     
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    variety is the spice of life.....

    has nothing to do with being happy or unhappy.
    it is not what you do. it is the way how you do it.
     
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    I don't mess with married men, no matter what the circumstances... it's matter of pride and principle for me and the fact my mother would come over across the waters :whip: me like i stole something.:SuN049:
     
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