One of the things I have noticed in my life from very young is the lack of encouraging words of support for young Black Men and boys. Most notably, rarely do we Black men actually offer words of encouragment to our sons, nephews, cousins, kin, and colleagues. And quiet as it seems to be kept, Black women and men are far more likely to encourage a daughter to be her best than they are to encourage a son in the same way. It is a thread grafted into the fabric of our culture by Willie Lynch ideology, which we use to control the forward movement and progress of one another, and we need to recognize that in order to make the necessary changes in how we address the progress of individuals in our communities. Just simple changes in our language and outlook would make such a profound difference in our communities. Just knowing that there will be folks who will support you in the face of others who want to see you in misery, bolsters one's confidence than they can achieve the things they want to achieve - and to rebound quicker and stronger from their disappointments, as well. I know that there are a few of you who want me to expound ad nauseum on HOW Willie Lynch is the cause. Sorry, I am not interested in the cause, but the cure. The banner of this website says that we should EMBRACE and ENCOURAGE one another, and I try to put that into practice as much as I can. It is NOT enough to talk the talk, and not walk the walk, and I don't feel that talking over much, or focusing on white people is the answer. We are already TOO FOCUSED on White boys and what they've done to us to focus on ourselves, and what we can do FOR ourselves. It's not natural for human beings to be FOCUSED on two things simultaneously - even with two eyes. Think about that. It is another story in and of itself. floy floy!