If you want to know what a woman will look like in 20 years

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  1. panafrica

    panafrica Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    How many of you have heard of this saying: If you want to know what a woman looks like in 20 years, take a look at her mother. Overall how accurate is this at giving an indication for how a woman will age?
     
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    I think skin tone has something to do with it too. Light skin ages quicker than darker skin. That's another saying: Black don't crack.

    Also how a woman takes care of herself plays a part. Good genes will do a woman no good if she smokes and drinks.

    Just look at how she takes care of herself. None of us is getting any younger. Why should a man worry about what a woman will look like in twenty years when his own hair is beginning to recede?

    Granted men are more visually stimulated than women (guess thatls that testosterone Dual loves to talk about) so they are less tolerant of physical flaws. That doesn't mean a man can just let himself go anymore than a woman can.
     
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    panafrica Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Actually I think the saying is, "Good Black don't Crack".
     
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    Pan you know I have fumbled with this logic alot in my life. I know form my wife her mother is a nice looking woman, but all black women age better than any one else so it is hard for me to really take a particular stand.

    All I can say is that I am glad I am not marrying dem other cultures people (Yall know who dey is). All of them age poorly.
     
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    Sister Softly's Interjection

    Wagging my own tail... (or whatever that thing sister Destee said. lol)

    I've always heard that as well. I don't know if that is true. I have never really paid close attention to what women (even in my own family) look like in relation to their mother; however, if it is true, happy happy joy joy b/c my mama is too fine. LOL. Yeah, I said it. Errrrrrysince I was in middle school (and old enough to know it) men jocked my mom. Guys that I went to school with would jock my moms and my two aunts. My mother is beautiful woman so I don't mind at all looking like her. I hope my children don't get it as bad as men and my cousins did when we were in school; it was horrible!

    I also agree with Sister River about some things. How you take care of yourself plays a large roll in how quickly we age. I also think makeup plays a large roll. Women who wear a lot of makeup never seem to look right as they age. But back to the lifestyle thing... Have you ever seen a person and be shocked by their real age? You hear it and are like, "DANG, she must have had a hard life!"

    Last of all... IMO Black women age far better than most other ethnic groups.
    Moral of the story: Take care of yourself Sistas!

    If You "Since my mother's asthetically pleasing percentage grows as she ages shouldn't mine?" Come Softly LOL...
     
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    panafrica Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    They sho nuff do!
     
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    I think that women who are loved and appreciated age better. There’s nothing like being in a loving relationship to keep a woman on her toes in keeping herself well-groomed, fit, stylish. Some women who feel like they’re being taken for granted or feel overlooked and unappreciated just kind of ‘let themselves go’ at a certain point. They should love themselves even if no one else does. For instance, I read in Essence magazine last night that a woman should send herself flowers and pamper herself in other ways, if she doesn’t have anyone else to do that for her. In general, she should just fall in love with herself!
     
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    I think genetics plays a large part, but certainly one's lifestyle (including the amount of stress one deals with on a daily base) is a contributing factor.
     
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    This was the Trillest Post of the Quarter.
     
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    There is a lot of truth to this...but be careful!

    Are you really... h_mmmm??...:eek:hmy:

    There is a lot of truth to that…especially if the daughter and mother favor facially or especially proportionally from the neck on down. Sometimes a female don’t have her mother’s facial features, but have her mother’s physique.

    But genes are funny and unpredictible…and you have to also compare diets, lifestyles, occupations and emotional states. How many children did her mother have? And so forth. Everything affects your looks, overtime.

    A woman, who has a proclivity to be heavy, is going to be much bigger if she’s eating fatback and gravy all the time, as compare to one who eats healthier foods.

    …And also your idea of her beauty adjust overtime with children, familiarity, her attitude (that can go either way), and of course you’re going to change also…!

    I’ve seen a woman have ONE child and just loose it physically (and sometimes mentally:nuts:).
    Then I’ve seen something that has always been baffling,
    I know some older women who have had 8-10 children and sometimes even more,
    and are just as full of energy and look 10 years younger than what they really are!
    I’ve seen this a lot!


    But with all that said, sometimes the father's genes are more responsible in a woman's development than the mothers!

    So I do think there is a lot of truth in genetics, but using such a guide is a poor instrument for picking a long-term companion. You may be caught-up on looks when you are at the beginning stages of selecting a mate, but rarely does anybody break up over someones looks changing over twenty years…that’s pretty shallow.


    Peace:cool:
     
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