It is believed that if a man is cheating. It isn't based on love. I beg to differ . It has to be for me to give in. One of them I feel love. Casual sex, seems so shallow. If what I am jeapardizing has run it's course. I have told her, many times. She didn't hear me of course. I also told her she doesn't listen to me. Nothing happens all of a sudden there are exchanges before grief. My new has already heard me say I'm in love with thee. No surprizes to her, it is clear to me. Her response must be clear, I take in her needs. If a love affair is discovered. It usually ends the match. You had in a relationship. It tears up the past. Most times, you turn to the one you engaged. Then find out they were only in it. As a casual thing. Now you have lost the chance to repair your love. It's all torn up. Can't turn to your mate, the affair isn't there. Feeling caught in the middle messed up bad fate. Now I will admit, there are instances of course. Someone comes along and all reason is divorced. I'm tempted your tempted to give it a try. Look deep before you leap taken into the fire. I need to know, my mates mind and her life. Meet her friends, know her trends. See her interact share her life. I'm not needy. No way. I need my space too. But a balance of sharing together time isn't to much to ask of you. Offer on the table one time. My criteria is verbalized. I don't deviate I'm set. You will find my criteria like an oak tree, hard. All things must come together.