Black Relationships : If a woman is wife material and you are not ready for marriage

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  1. cursed heart

    cursed heart Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Would you keep her?
    And how or what qualities would she have to posses for you to consider her wife material?
     
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    Tantrum Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    For her to be wifey material
    Man have a career established for real
    Or atleast on track to have one
    Loves to have fun/go out enjoy life
    Not uptight what so ever
    People person able to adapt
    Doesnt mind her man chilling with the guys from time to time
    Knows how to dress-Thats a must
    Keeps her hair and nails done-Thats a must
    Usually like my woman Light to Honey complextion
    I can really get deeper
    Perfect Wifey would also have this.....
    Bowleg with pretty feet
    Knows how to cook some bomb spaghetti
    Teeth nice and white-Im Heaven
     
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    SAMURAI36 Banned MEMBER

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    Brother, did you notice that none of your qualifications speak about who a woman truly is, but only what she looks like on the outside? :confused:
     
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    SAMURAI36 Banned MEMBER

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    To answer the question, no I would not keep her, if I was not ready to be to her (husband) what she is ready to be to me (wife).

    Why would I be so selfish? I would rather let her be free, to find someone who is truly worthy of all that she is, and all that she has to offer. It's just like that saying about love: "If you love someone, let them go....if they come back, they're yours....if they don't, they never were".

    As far as my criteria of what makes a woman wife material:

    *Whether she has the potential to be a good mother to her future children

    *Whether she has had some quality/variety life experiences (good and bad), and has learned from them all.

    *Whether she respects herself, and knows the meaning and art of love

    *whether she can take care of herself, without the assistance of anyone else

    *Whether she makes the attempt to take care of her health.

    *Whether she has a pleasant, loving demeanor.

    *Whether she has some sort of useful skill, and/or creative talent.

    *Whether she is mature, honest, smart, and funny!!

    That's all that I could think of, off the bat.

    PEACE
     
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    he is young, and single......you only learn what you need in a wife after you have one........

    when i have had women who wanted to marry i have directed them elsewhere.
     
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    SAMURAI36 Banned MEMBER

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    Oh. For some reason I thought the brother was around my age......Where did I get that idea from? :confused:
     
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    Tantrum Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Man I have to get passed the outside
    For me to even want to get to the inside
    If you dont know what she has to offer
    From the jump from career to looks
    Then how do you know if you want to take the time
    Cause I would hate to get to know someone
    Yet there career is over with-They have alot of kids
    I just feel like I am in my prime and I want the best
     
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    SAMURAI36 Banned MEMBER

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    In my experience, I've come to learn that it you set yourself to look immediately for the inside, then:

    #1) The outside won't matter as much

    #2) The inside will jump out at you alot faster.
     
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    Tantrum Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Shiit LOL
    Naw I have to look at her
    The inside being beautiful is cool
    But man I have to look where I am going first
     
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    No, you misunderstand: I'm not saying you should be with someone that you find unattractive....I'm saying that once you begin to look on the inside, alot of what you consider to be "attractive" will change.

    I personally have a wide margin of the kind of women I find attractive physically.

    But as far as the insides are concerned, my choices don't stray too far.

    We have to remember, that the things that we have as our "preferences" are based solely on our perception. Remember, also that our perceptions change all the time, based on life experiences, age/maturity, etc.

    You're not going to like the same things 25 years from now, as you do right now.

    PEACE
     
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