Black Men : If a Woman Hits You - What do you do?

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  1. medusanegrita

    medusanegrita Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Brothers, when a woman hits you, what do you do? What are you suppose to do? Is your instinct about what to do different than what you actually do?
    What does your instinct say to do versus what you actually do?


    What if a woman was instigating you to hit her?
    Like 'GONE 'HEAD AND HIT ME N****, YOU AIN'T NUTHIN! IF YOU CAIN'T HIT ME THEN YOU SHO CAINT HIT A N****! YOU JUSTA PUNK*** MF'er YOU CAIN'T DO NUTHIN! WEAK PUNK*** N****!'

    Yes, I've seen it. Heard it. In the latter, I think women have gotten so used to men exhibiting violence, they that need for him to show that so he can demonstrate that he really is a man.

    In the former... who knows why women hits a man. There are plenty of reasons.

    Some men say they would never hit a woman. They would walk away, hold or restrain her to calm her down, and then may leave - entirely or just for a minutes or a few hours.

    Some men say that if a b**** hit them, then gonna hit her.... because she should have known better than to hit anybody.

    Some men say they would they would slap her really hard, make her cry and that would stop her from hitting. They wouldn't punch her 'like a man.'

    What about the situations, does that matter? What if her instigating to be hit became a constant thing during an argument.

    What if she was seemingly nice an sweet at first, but during a heated argument she couldn't control her anger and always sought to hit you?

    Does it matter if she is wife, sex associate (common referred to as 'friends with benifits), girlfriend or whatever?

    Is there ever a time a women 'deserves' to be hit?

    Your honest opinions please.

    My son has taken the position that women are not to be hit.... period. They are to be gotten away from, you don't mess with them, and they are certainly not to be made your girlfriend/wife if you see they like to hit or instigate to be hit.

    I'm proud he's like this.... but I'm not sure I like it.
    I'm kinda of the mind 'if a B**** hit you, SLAP THE HELL OUT OF HER and then leave'... especially today because he allowed this one chick to hit him since she talking smack about beating his butt and he basically said 'bring it on then' and 'gave' her a hit. I think if allow a woman to hit you and do nothing, she might continue to try to hit you or instigate you to hit her because she knows you won't hit her back.


    I've gotten angry and done tried to hit, knife-poke, stab, throw things, slap, scratch, kick, bite a man before.

    I could give you all the justifications and excuses in the worl about why I did it but ultimately, it probably doesn't even matter. The man I did all that too... took all 3 angles - we physically fought (I got shoved, pushed, hit, smacked, knocked down, restrained,... never really punched tho). Sometimes he left and didn't fight. Sometimes I just got slapped the holy hell out of... which either had leaving him the hell alone or trying to stab him. Yes, I knew better then, but in my hurt and rage 'knowing better' doesn't suffice enough to stop it.

    Thanks in advance.
     
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    i ghost......:ghost:
     
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    I have only had this happen once, I laughed,

    and no, I would not hit a woman, unless she had a knife in her hands.
     
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    If a Woman Hits You - What do you do?


    Leave,


    cause the only time a sister slaps someone is out of a dis,
    and I do not dis women
     
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    let me also add....
    slide and rock on.....

    one love
    khasm
     
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    This topic has already been discussed twice
















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    GREETINGS SIS. MEDUSANEGRITA....

    MY FATHER TOLD ME THAT IF A WOMAN MAKES YOU ANGRY ENOUGH TO HIT HER , THEN YOU DONT NEED TO BE AROUND HER.....PERIOD..

    I HAVE BEEN IN THAT SITUATION YOU DESCRIBED ......I WALKED AWAY , AND NEVER LOOKED BACK.....NOT EVEN FOR AN UNDERSTANDING CONVERSATION , WHICH I SELFISHLY REGRETTED....

    BUT WHAT I LEARNED IS SOMETHING ELSE MY FATHER TOLD ME....

    " IT WILL HURT THAT WOMAN 10 TIMES MORE BY WALKING AWAY THAN IT EVER WOULD BY USING YOUR HANDS ".....


    WARRIOR
     
  9. medusanegrita

    medusanegrita Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    What if she she has been your wife for years? Would you still walk away and not look back?

    Seems harder then because of the time you have invested in the relationship.


    Kemetstry, you have an aversion to topics to topics being repeated?
    Sorry, that's gonna happened regrdless. You can only be so unque in regard to new topics.

    Thank you for all the responses.

    Something about this.... can't put my finger on it. It's touching....
     
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    Run! So she can't hit me again.

    Seriously, I was taught the exact thing WARRIOR was taught. Never had to us it.
     
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