Black Women : IF A MAN WANTS YOU...

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  1. soulosophy

    soulosophy Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

    Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

    Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

    Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.

    Slower is better.

    Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

    If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

    Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

    Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

    The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

    Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?

    Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

    Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you

    A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

    All men are NOT dogs.

    You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

    You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

    You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

    Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

    Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

    Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

    Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

     
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    anAfrican Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    do that stuff!!!
     
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    don't sell yourself short; make him pay billions!

    fake hair nets a fake man.

    be the beauty of you; if he can't see that he can't see.
     
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    $$RICH$$ Lyon King Admin. STAFF

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    I agree to some and disagree with others ....
    As men should not fall to her will nor should he become her prey and be victimized

    Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

    while the eye is upon him who is watching her as she play
    into others .....This not a good moral no more then corruption

    many of these things apply unto women as well as men
    both should work together for solutions not one way pollution
    men not in the bussiness to stay when they don't wanna be kept.
    Mostly a two way street for both yet i do agree with most.


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    Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

    Wow.....Rich I'd most diffidently have to agree you on this.. this is very dangerous ..talking through a problem to get to a solution is alway best.


    KEEPING HIM/HER UNDER IN RADAR BUT GETTING TO KNOW OTHERS​


    http://destee.com/forums/showthread.php?t=55970


    Lilpea...
     
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    soulosophy Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    LOL...@ the fake hair one
     
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    Jahari Kavi Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    not all the time. I've ran into this problem with girls before, and as a man who wants to be in a relationship, this can be very annoying. I'm not saying throw everything at the brother in over a span of a week, but don't take too long to drag things out. If something feels right, then go with your instincts. Yes.......your instincts can be wrong at times, but when it comes to relationships 99.9% of the time it's trial and error, until you meet that person who's right for you (that's if you plan on getting married).
     
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    soulosophy Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Bro Rich & Bro LP :em16:

    You’re both right. That don't sound too right :qqb006:
    Hey, just so you know, I didn’t create these guidelines… :em3400: LOL

    Bro LP, is that how you're going on these days? Hittin us with your flows now. It looks like u got the writing fever baby. :welldone:
     
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    It a guideline of a mad black woman one that is not well throughout shown
    If a man want u , he will show it in many ways ...if he don't trust me he will
    leave u just as fast as the woman want him gone .

    Our women have labled us to be dogs to watch and beware of instead of lovin us
    and working to understand our reasons or emotions
    Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

    Our behavior with or against our women is not bad ones
    but kinda like what she has toss upon us and labled us to be
    once we learn to unite as mates and love in a devine way
    a black man and woman relationship would be fruitful.

    You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

    This so true and yet it's also true that when u find that right
    mate they do make u complete as a whole and once divided
    u feel you lost one half of yourself


    Often you might see us as stringing alone but we not just moving slow to be sure that
    this love and relationship will be fruitful and be a lasting dearing one .

    The guidelines is womanized up and too many women follows it instead of there own
    which is there fate .

     
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    Yeah, I don't agree with that last one either. "One foot in and one foot out" is not a committed, all-in relationship.


    But, everything is some good, solid advice! :toast:
     
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