Black Relationships : If a MAN Wants You

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  1. Yemoja'sGoddess

    Yemoja'sGoddess Banned

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    I recieved this in an e-mail this morning and was compelled to share it. Hope this is some vital info for those of us in need. By the way, FYI, this was written by a Black MAN.:hearthis:

    IF A MAN WANTS YOU

    If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
    If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
    Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
    Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
    Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
    Slower is better.
    Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
    If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
    then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
    Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
    Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself
    a year later for staying when things are not better.
    The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
    Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
    He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
    Why would he treat you any differently?
    Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
    Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
    If something bothers you, speak up.
    Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
    You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
    Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has
    more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
    He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
    Never let a man define who you are.
    Never borrow someone else's man.
    Oh Lord!? If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
    A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
    All men are NOT dogs.
    You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
    You need time to heal between relationships..........there is nothing cute about
    baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
    You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists
    of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
    Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
    Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your
    always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
    Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
    Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
    Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another
    RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.
    They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate
    them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.
     
  2. Keita Kenyatta

    Keita Kenyatta going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    THE GOOD REVEREND IS CONFUSED!!! He obviously doesn't know the difference between a man and a male, cause if he did he would know that what he just said does not apply to MEN.
     
  3. Yemoja'sGoddess

    Yemoja'sGoddess Banned

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    Thanks!

    I thank u eternally King Keita or taking the time to read and respond to this post. You opinion is much appreciated and refreshing!:jam:
     
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    Joyce Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Nonetheless it is definitely good advice for confused females...LOL! Thanks for sharing.:SuN011:
     
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    hiphopolx Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
    She could, and sometimes with the help of a court order she could

    If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
    I know of some that would stay for the kids.

    Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your
    always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.


    When ppl play games they don't always win. I'd like to know how someone will take me being real cause if the relationship lasts and you get married with children it's gonna get real the games will stop and that is not the time to get to know the real person they gonna be dealing with for the rest of their life.

    peace
    :)
     
  6. IfUComeSoftly

    IfUComeSoftly Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    some of this is real talk... however...

    granted we are not talking about random, unworthy dudes...

    never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

    ummm... of course we won't share everything with any one person.. only God knows everything... however i will never willfully keep anything from him... he is the one person i should feel comfortable bearing my soul... if he hasn't already seen it in the first place...

    He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

    he is so much more than a man... he is my king... the head of my home and heart... yeah much more than a man...

    Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

    the key is to surround yourself with people who wouldn't do such things... i do not mind letting him know where i am... i actually voluntarily check in most of the time... i do not let him know my every move.. i am not a child however.... i have nothing to hide... from the way he treats me and our family.. i am not taken for granted.. it's possible...

    but most of it is on point... and it's bigger than a romantic relationship... these are things that should be present in any relationship...
     
  7. Goddess Auset333

    Goddess Auset333 Banned MEMBER

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    Where there is the Divine attributes of the Divine Reveler we call God in us which is Harmony: :SuN030: Order :SuN030: Balance:SuN030: in the King gods and Queen goddesses, everything is as it should be, absent of games, manipulations, control, ifs, ands, maybes, buts, doubts, probably, perhaps...and the likes of.

    Sounds to good to be true. It can be done. Mind is everything. Everything is Mind.

    Solitude:SuN030: Serenity:SuN030: Peace:SuN030:

    Harmony, order, balance, solitude, serenity, and Peace is a NEED (eternal) and not a WANT (temporal).

    When we strive for that we NEED, all that we could ever WANT will be wrapped up in that NEED. When we strive for WANT (temporal) there is no eternal Joy, just temporal happiness that WANT is. We desire Powerful relationship we must speak powerful words that has life in them, and most of all Be those words.
     
  8. Yemoja'sGoddess

    Yemoja'sGoddess Banned

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    Thanks!

    Firstly, allow me to say thank u to everyone for taking the time to read and post your thoughts about the e-mail I recieved. However, I feel compelled to say that these are in no way, shape, form, or fashion my thoughts or words in context. Granted, some of which I may identify with, I am a firm believer of "to each it's own" Experience has been my best teacher, and I feel u when when u say any and every relationship should be void of games or any and every kind.

    Luv my Destee Fam!:qqb015:
     
  9. Goddess Auset333

    Goddess Auset333 Banned MEMBER

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    :SuN030: Precious and treasured Cargo, Queen goddess YG::SuN030:

    I admire your curiosity about all there is in life.

    This places you on the Divine Honor roll.:SuN030:

    You have and will continue to graduate ahead of others, who do not Ask, Seek, and Knock for the answers.

    Smooches and hugs precious one. :SuN030:
     
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