Black Parenting : I Want Another Baby!

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  1. MsInterpret

    MsInterpret Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I have had this longing to have another baby since I turned 28..and now that I'm 30 years old, the desire is much stronger.

    The only thing keeping me back are,

    - I don't want to have a child with just any man
    - I want to be married the next time I have a child

    I keep looking at my daughter's picture when she was a baby and I miss those days.
    Also, all the women in my family had to have hysterectomies in their 30s due to cysts, and history may play out for me as well. I always wanted to have three children. And if I have to have one I guess I will have no choice but to be okay with it.

    I want another child so bad!!!!!

    (one that comes out of my womb)
     
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    Another girl or boy:)
     
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    MsInterpret Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I want a boy...I've always wanted a boy.
     
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    I have three sons and I wanted a girl so much:mad:
     
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    MsInterpret Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    The majority gender in my family is female...the only boy out of all the cousins is gay.
     
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    More boys are in my family. My mother has 15 grand children and 11 are BOYS. I have three sons, my oldest brother has four boys and one girl, another brother has three boys and one girl, another brother has one boy. One brother does not have any children. My mother only has four grand daughters.
     
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    It's good that you want to have a child as a married woman with a man. Focus on that goal first.

    Don't waste your time dating a man that doesn't want you. I would give him a time frame of 6 months before you pop the question. It's not the most romantic way, but it will let you know immediately if your man is about love or sex. Men that are about sex will never truly acknowledge you like they should because they are already getting everything.

    Next, I am concerned about your health.

    I am not a doctor, and I don't want to give bad advice. However, now is the time to reevaluate how you are living your life. Do you have to get a hysterectomy for a cyst? From my understanding, cysts are tumors that aren't cancerous. I would beg your physician for other strategies on how to deal with that problem. Cysts should be drainable... you shouldn't have to immediately turn to surgery unless there is a mass collection of them.

    Secondly, I'm not sure it is healthy you having a baby with the problem you talked about. There are options with surrogacy, where your egg would be put into another woman... one of the centers around here that does that covers the procedure with insurance.

    But if you decide to take the risk, please eat healthy and eat a lot. Don't be starving yourself. Now would be the time to eat anything that is green, leafy and fruit or vegetable. You should also open your mind up to foreign fruits, like plantains or jackfruit. Supplements are also a good choice, being that they infuse you with a wealth of nutrients that are hard to get with our Western diet.

    I would not let a doctor take my uterus unless I had an official diagnosis of cancer.

    My father had a tumor the size of a grapefruit in his stomach and he had it for years. It wasn't until he fainted at work that we discovered he was toxic. The doctors did remove it, because at that point it HAD become cancerous. But if he had the cyst drained and/or was healthier to begin with his body could fight the problem on its own.

    But anyway, stay strong and I hope my advice helps. Keep your faith up too... pray every day that God gives you a fitting solution to your dilemma.
     
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    Then Your gonna need to get off the Internet and do some real work.....
     
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    Don't worry about the baby. I know that is the main focus of your posts but.....Matthew 6:25-34, and Matthew 6:8. I know it won't help the desire, but know that God hears all, and knows all. Don't worry, God will provide when the time is right.

    I am going through something similar...i would like a spouse. It is rough at times, but I have to remind myself that God is in control. He is in control, I just have to follow His lead.
     
  10. MsInterpret

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    Just to let you know...I don't have cysts...
     
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