Black Relationships : I need....

I love a women with a beautiful mind. When the looks are gone and you both have gotten old.You share a special bond unlike any ever known. A spirtual level connection that goes beyond sex or any other thing you can think of at that point you realize that that person completes you and every thing about u. You love them so much that you feed them before you feed yourself.

When your dream women/men finds you will you be ready?
:read: :Zzz: :weights:

:spinstar:Soulja:spinstar:
 
Ralfa'il said:

Triniti

Oh shhhhhnap!

I didn't mean for this post to look like a personal ad.

When I said I "needed" a woman who needs me I was stating my TYPE or PREFERENCE as opposed to the usual strong sista type so many bruthaz claim to want.
awwwwwwwwww brotha :) I was just messin with you lol

Dont mind my silliness :look: I was just makin light of stuff :)

I jes have a tendency to be a lil :nuts: lol

But to be quite frank brotha :huh: ...I didnt take your post TOO seriously because IMHO it wasnt very clear...
it could be said brotha that a "strong" woman made you
or someone "independent" of westernized ideals
see brotha... one of the beautiful things of life (and I am sure you know this already :) ) is the variance of perceptions
sister destee put it very eloquently in anotha thread
Destee said:
perception is reality

:heart:

Destee
and the reality is.. "strength" and "independence" are worth as much as the energy given them
I find it somewhat surprising that you have no desire for any strength or independence in your "woman" :read:
From what I have read from YOU
You are a STRONG brotha...with his OWN mindset so therefore
you have your individuality and that can thus be considered your "independence"
so then to see you say here...
Ralfa'il said:

.......if you're a strong independant woman, I have no need for you.
forgive me brotha :oops:
but I have gathered much of your own essences' strength and independence from the posts you have contributed to our community
and then to see you say that somewhat contradicts the spirit you have :huh:
are you saying brotha you want a complete opposite? lol
you want someone weak and wholely dependent on you? :huh:
forgive my presumptuousness brotha...:read: I'se a sistah jes tryin to get her facts skraight chu know :)


when i see a sister soulja QUEEN and I remove the STRENGTH that has brought her thus far
and the INDEPENDENCE that has endured her further
I am left with an empty vessel that vaguely resembles a white woman :look:
no strength no backbone nothing to depend on
no sense of self so no independence whatsoever...
and if she is therefore that empty shell...how is she to TRULY support a STRONG BLAK MAN???
So you mean on top of ALL the otha burdens you brothas carry
you gon carry a dependent woman too? lol :huh:


IMHO if I LOVE my brotha King...the STRENGTH in my SPIRIT will FIGHT TO THE DEATH to ensure that HE will never be STRONG alone
so that our spirits will rest upon each others but one will NEVER be strong alone
I love my blak brotha too much to LET him carry all the load alone
If I cannot sacrifice something of myself to GIVE you strength
then how will you SEE how much my love overflows?
His STRENTH is mine...yes
BUT
MY STRENGTH is his WHENEVA AND WHEREEVA AND HOWEVA he needs it...chu know ;)
Whether it be something as simple as paying bills or cooking a meal OR
something as intense as havin da 9mm loaded and ready to shoot at ANYONE who threatens his life :smokin:
There is STRENGTH in our UNITY
IMHO I find it rather impossible for any sister who truly LOVES her BLAK man to jes
...be weak...
I would rather die smh
I need my blak man to KNOW...at an INSTANTS notice I will be the STRONGEST I have EVER been and will EVER be...because I LOVE him
A Queen will fight to the death to save her King
and vice versa


do you catch where I am wandering with this brotha :huh: :)


You say brotha that you need a sister who "needs" you :)
My dearest brotha warrior King :grouphug:
even "strong" "independent" types have "needs"
chunowhatIsayin my brotha ;)


There is "strength" in acknowledging that our Kings are and always have been
the BEAT to our HEART
one cannot exist without the other
and any sister who says she can do without her Brothas...IMHO is not strong at all
but...weak
the whole IDEA of strength & independence WITHOUT our brothas is something WESTERN & EUROPEAN &
NOT OF US deception is an opperative tool of the enemy
where there is confusion deceit WILL reign

IMHO..there is STRENGTH in knowing the NEEDS of our NUBIAN souls
something that our ancestors have tried to pass down to us
our NEED for each other
I for you
and you for me
I consider myself a strong sistah with a spirit independent of this society's impressions
and for me that means...
I exist to co-exist with my brothas...there are no alternate options
no plan "B"
there are universal TRUTHS that my existence has come to grasp as VITAL
...being one with my strong BLAK brotha Kings is one of them :read:
But my ability to REALIZE that stems FROM my strength and much of my independence :blush:


I guess all I'se sayin brotha... is
there is a TRUE...STRONG...INDEPENDENT sister...somewhere who may very well "need" a brotha as STRONG & INSPIRED as you :)


But then again...:read: thas jes me :read: lol most folks say I'ms krazee :nuts:
LOL j/k :D


In all seriousness brotha...
If I have misinterpreted you I do apologize
It is not my intention to do anything but exchange with my brethren and grow
I wish you the best in all your future endeavors :) :grouphug: :heart:
 
James

i ONLY deal with strong, independent women.
anything less and i'd run over them like a subway train.


So wouldn't that be encouraging our women to be strong and agressive as shield and defense mechanism to protect themselves?




Triniti

Thanx for the very insightful (and I must say flattering) post sis...



are you saying brotha you want a complete opposite?

A resounding YESSSSSS!

Not a necessarily complete opposite, but someone who compliments my traits and off-sets my masculinity.






All

From what I've observed, most women really don't like having to be strong and independant.
Many find it NECESSARY to get on in this world, so they do it...but most I've met didn't like acting out of their nature.

Some say it "wears them out" in a way.

How else do we explain the fantasies of most young girls to have a handsome and masculine man come sweep them off their feet, marry them, and take care of them?
 

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