okay y'all... there's this woman. i have known her for about two years now, and i have loved her since the first day i laid eyes on her. Unfortunately, love at first sight had to wait, seeing as how i was in a volatile relationship. Volatile; but a relationship nonetheless. This woman and I have been friends and have grown quite fond of each other, or at least i feel, and I am currently no longer in that relationship. The dilemma is, I am a person that takes stock in honesty, and I haven't been totally honest to this woman. I have told my ex how i felt about this woman, expressing how strong my feelings were, but i made sure to make her, or try to make her understand that this woman was not the reason for me wanting to end the relationship. While on the other hand, I didn't tell the woman i want so badly to be with how deeply i felt for her. My ex-girlfriend currently lives in the same small city and attends the same school as me, which has made the break-up very, very tough, simply because i see her on a regular basis, and she has expressed to me on more than one occasion that she wants to get back together. I don't want her though, i want who i want. I want who i need. This woman has had my heart for a long time now, i just don't know how to get through to her. I know that she sometimes sees my "disappearing acts" as a form of me going back to my ex, since this woman and i live a good distance away from each other, buit that isn't the case at all. She knows everything that goes on in my day to day...and has no reason to be paranoid about me or any backsliding on my part. With all that said, i guess my question is... How do i a) totally rid myself of my ex without changing my area code and... b) let the woman i am pursuing know without question that she is the embodiment of everything i ever needed? might not be the secret to life...but i was just hoping you all could offer up some advice. thanks fam.