Aiight forum, this is my first post, so keep it real! I have been in and out of this relationship for the past 5 years, when things got bittersweet within the year. My mate and I had a blessing together (now 9mos.), but within the year, he confessed that he possibly now has 4 year-old son else where. It really doesn't matter to me if we were together or apart when the child was concieved because he's here regardless, but he has been there since day one, basically. The child's mother still has feelings for him (I can tell), but he says he only wants to be with me. The plot, however, thickens because he lives in Chicago, and I'm in Cali. Of course he wants us to move that way, but I think it would be a massive mistake. I don't want our child to not be in his father's daily life, but I'm not tryin to hear about this potential child of his either, or sell myself short on hopes for a future. He's only told me about this other child, which is why I'm not really sweatin it, but he'll only take another DNA test if the mother pays for it (one was already taken, but...). So forum, give me the best advice ever before I loose my mind. Should I just consider my child's life, or should I keep things "as is" and just move on? I still do love him, but things will never be the same with him. Please holla back!