Black People : I need a better place to grow.

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    I am single, professional mom of a 13 year old young man. I currently reside in Baltimore, MD and it has been a struggle trying to maintain here. I need somewhere with a good standard of living, reasonable housing, friendly people and environment with great schools. I am also looking for somewhere where I won't have to deal with so much racism and prejudice (I am Muslim). It is hard for me trying to make it in my industry (I am a RN) due to so much opposition including harassment. Not to fail to mention, I NEED somewhere where my son can thrive and receive the support he needs as a young Black man. I have done all the searches for the best places for a Black woman to live but many places seem worst than where I am. Does anyone have any suggestions?
     
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    Hello and welcome! :wave:
     
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    When you were "searching for the best places for a Black woman to live," what criterion were you looking for?

    What factors turned you off from other locations?
     
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    [quote="cherryblossom, post: 783891, member: 22134





    Thanks but this is the post that people were talking about the problems in many of those areas. Nonetheless, I am going to pray about and do some visiting. Then I will make up my mind from there.
     
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    ...According to Yahoo Finance, here are the first 10 and for the second set of best places, you may go on their site to see for yourself:


    1. Carmel, IN

    2. McKinney, TX

    3. Eden Prairie, MN

    4. Newton, MA

    5. Redmond, WA

    6. Irvine, CA

    7. Reston, VA

    8. Columbia/Ellicott City, MD

    9. Overland Park, KS

    10. Chapel Hill, NC
     
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    :hello: luvmia ... :welcome1: :welcome: :welcome1:

    Thanks for joining us and sharing! I don't have any locations to suggest moving to, i just wanna say that wherever you go, the chances are great that you'll run into some of the same challenges found in Baltimore. On the surface, based on what you've said above, you're leaps and bounds ahead of many Single Black Mothers, in that you have a great profession, one that almost guarantees you the ability to feed, clothe, and shelter your Family without interruption. That's really good. Young Black Men all over the country and world, lack the support they need as young men, it's a devastating situation. I believe the primary concern is that you make sure he has a loving home, with open communication, safe, etc. ... and for 13 years, it appears you've done that ... so keep up the great work! Racism and prejudice are everywhere, i don't know that we can actually move away from it, escape it, etc., though there are probably some places better / worse than others. I'd just hate to see you go from the frying pan to the fire, ya know? The grass always looks greener on the other side, so i've heard. Even if you weren't Muslim, they'd be finding other reasons to hate on you ... maybe make it easier on yourself and Son ... and just move to a better neighborhood within the city, keep your job, and let them folk know (by remaining) that you have as much right to be there, earn a living, care for your child ... as they do ... 'cause all that you've shared thus far about Bmore, can be found in most any city in this country.

    Love You and Good Luck on your quest!

    Make yourself right at home, because you are.

    :heart:

    Destee
     
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    Thank you for your response. Yes I am educated and a RN but it does not change the fact that I have to endure more hardships than the average Black person. Just like many individuals I have encountered, you were so quick to look at my title and assume that I am in a better circumstances than most Black single moms.
    I can't expect you to understand how it feels to lose jobs because of being Muslim; to be denied jobs because of being Muslim; or being harassed and fearing being attacked because of being Muslim. I have been looking for another job for a very long time and the doors keep slamming despite the fact I am very qualified. Some places are better than others and I know there are people out there whom have found a better circumstance just by researching and asking others (which was the reason for my post). And yes I am quite aware that prejudice and racism is everywhere but it does not mean that one cannot seek out other options. My son DOES NOT have the support he needs as a young Black men because there are not enough positive Black men role models to go around. Quite frankly I cannot teach him how to be a man and help him with the challenges he faces. You assume I have been able to provide for my son without interruption because of my problems with getting and keeping unemployment in addition to the fact that I fell ill at one point and could not work.

    Until you walk a mile in my shoes, you will never know what it is like to go through what I go through. Maybe one day you should go outside wearing an overgarment and a scarf and gauge how your family, friends and society treats you.
     
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