Black Relationships : I just want to speak my peace

blazejay

Well-Known Member
MEMBER
Apr 14, 2012
250
127
What I am about to say is going to throw people off and might seem like I am bashing, but what I been seeing, hearing, and feeling is foreign.
I never was one to be open or like to deal with my emotions, I was never the bad guy or nerd.
This is the problem, I was the observer never was into females that much and never had a reason to. Don't get me wrong I like females but I was never the type to run after them.
I was not the guy who like to change or feel anything for someone.
I notice that for a guy like me or the guys that have morals and values is shun,excluded,ignored or viewed as weak, but we are always told growing up from females "we just can be friends" or my favorite you a "nice guy".

What many single guys don't get and why they date female of another race is because the extra guessing and the pain you put a guy through who is trying to be himself. You viewed this guy as needy or whatever, but you do not know how hard or what goes on inside his head when he finally have the courage to say anything. It is a guessing game that make a guy want to be alone.
I know we different, and behave different but why you keep thinking life is a fairy-tale it never going to be a happy-ending and the state we are in we need each other more than ever.
How a family suppose to be built with me in a jail cell all behind the misinterpreted notion that we got to be A-Z or how can I be there for my kids from a grave? You tell me

You want us to be one way and then, want us to switch up and be another.
Remember it is a two way street, in y'all minds there no more "Good Man", but there are
a lot of them in front of you, but you too deep in fantasy land to see them.
 

Bootzey

Well-Known Member
MEMBER
Feb 26, 2008
1,994
791
Metro ATL
Occupation
Don't Ask
So let me understand.....

You're too sensitive for a sista? And white folks treat you more delicately?

See these are the people who will get left behind when the revolution comes. And we won't miss them...
 

IFE

Well-Known Member
MEMBER
Jan 20, 2015
3,041
498
Sad.
 
Last edited:

blazejay

Well-Known Member
MEMBER
Apr 14, 2012
250
127
How is it sad? When people ask a question and you give a answer to why they can't handle the truth. Everyone going to have different experiences and views.
This is a link that support my cause:

 
Last edited:

chuck

Well-Known Member
MEMBER
Aug 9, 2003
13,471
2,159
What I can't seem to understand and get how is it disrespectful if a man date or by pass a sista for a white woman it is a grave disrespect, but she does it everyone get quiets or don't want to address it on the spot?
I am a sad case because of my views, but reality speak the truth.


Just be there for those who are as intelligent and respectful as you're striving to be here too!
 

IFE

Well-Known Member
MEMBER
Jan 20, 2015
3,041
498
What I can't seem to understand and get how is it disrespectful if a man date or by pass a sista for a white woman it is a grave disrespect, but she does it everyone get quiets or don't want to address it on the spot?
I am a sad case because of my views, but reality speak the truth.
Your views expressed here are your truths. Nothing wrong with that IMO.
 

IFE

Well-Known Member
MEMBER
Jan 20, 2015
3,041
498
How is it sad? When people ask a question and you give a answer to why they can't handle the truth. Everyone going to have different experiences and views.
This is a link that support my cause:

And you had to go there! Excuses for desiring white women cause Sisters ain't no good!

If you believe yourself to be a good man rejected only by Black women, chances are there are issues you have not addressed. You will possible be rejected by white women to.

If a Black man desires to be with a white women and needs a reason or excuse that includes the character assassination of Black women he got issues that can't be cured by a white woman.
Get your white woman and hopefully satisfaction where you find yourself.

That video or whatever is disrespectful of Black women and yourself to post such trash about your mother.

Did you say Black women, like your mother, have become worthless?
 

Destee

destee.com
STAFF
Jan 22, 2001
35,770
9,754
betwixt and between
destee.com
Occupation
Website Consultant
blazejay ... speak your peace ... :)

It sounds like you are having trouble living up to the expectations of others (or what you think their expectations are) and getting frustrated with the effort. I think it will always be difficult to please other people with all of your ways, thoughts, choices, etc., and trying can lead to an entirely different issue that will have to be resolved at some point.

I think it's simpler to just be happy with yourself and not worry so much about what others think.

Who you choose as a partner is your own personal choice.

If you want a white woman, have her.

If you want a black woman, have her.

It's a bit of stretch to blame all black or white women on the failure of your relationships.

Especially considering you're the only constant in them.

Live your life young Brother, be as wise and safe as possible and have fun doing it if you can.

Hopefully the rest of us are doing the same.

Much Love and Peace.

:heart:

Destee
 

baller

Well-Known Member
MEMBER
Jan 28, 2001
3,798
671
the near north
From a young man's perspective, all women have issues. From a young woman's perspective, all men are dawgs. Until you come to a greater understanding of self, you don't understand your role in the big picture. Nor have you come to a full appreciation of your sister's LOVE for her brother. As you come to a better understanding of self, you will begin to fully appreciate what our sisters bring to the table; no one can equal her contribution to the black man's life. NO ONE. I would never presume to tell a grown man who he should, and should not, date--as a young man, I wanted to get with every female ethnicity out there--but as you come into your own, you'll come to realize that it's not just about sex. The electricity, the strength, the attraction generated when you look into the eyes, and heart, of a sister...is unmatched. Don't condemn yourself to a life of whiteness, without fully knowing the richness that is an Ebony Queen.

*Consider*
 

Consciousness Raising Online!

Latest profile posts

Clarity to pursue my mission in 2020
Destee wrote on Omowale Jabali's profile.
Hi Brother O! YAAAAAY! Good to see you! Hoping all is well with you and yours! Happy New Year! :heart:
Destee wrote on King Tubbs's profile.
Hi Brother - so good to see you in the house again! Hoping all is well with you and yours! Happy New Year Beloved! :heart:
Destee wrote on Ms Drea's profile.
Sister ... what did you decide? How will we be moving forward? I've been working, I am excited. I Love You! Happy New Year Beloved! :heart:
One-Hundredd wrote on Destee's profile.
Hope you having a happy holidayz
Top